you're right, MWM---
I absolutely have learned to tune it out when others who have not lived our lives tell us all about what we should do. That includes relatives, acquaintances, good friends, and even those on the board who have not had a son like 36
Read more: http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/discussion-thread-when-did-you-first-know-how-bad-it-was.56690/#ixzz2wkiv1eqP
it was hard not to respond to 'Tom' when he was ranting about mothers who detach since he clearly doesn't have a clue who we are or what we've been through...I'm learning that skill of tuning it out but find I tend to isolate myself too much, never bring up my difficult child, and when people ask me how he is, I lie with vague but incomplete answers ('he's still going to community college and seems to be fine') so most have no clue he's not even living here anymore...I just don't want to go into it with them
