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do consequence or rewards ever work for your difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 370861" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Consequences never worked for either of my kids - probably because I could rarely figure out logical ones.</p><p> </p><p>The rewards system worked wonders for difficult child when he was coming out of his battle for anxiety. However, it worked for him because HE was working hard on his behaviors and the reward was just what it was suppose to be, a small recognition of a job well done.</p><p> </p><p>For most kids, if the reward system is used in chart form, it will be short lived as the kid gets too bored with it and wants it to become more (bigger reward for less work type of thing).</p><p> </p><p>Also, for most kids, the consequence or reward becomes the focus of the behavior so they really are not learning anything. They need to learn to behave properly because it is the right thing to do. It is easier for us most of the time to give a consequence (that was bad, you need to be disciplined) or reward (if you are good you will get this) than it is to deal directly with the situation (talk about why that was not a good choice and what could have been differently or point out why the discission was a good one).</p><p> </p><p>Gotta keep trying to communicate every chance you get. They may pretend like they are not listening but somewhere along the line they will pick up what you are trying to teach.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 370861, member: 5096"] Consequences never worked for either of my kids - probably because I could rarely figure out logical ones. The rewards system worked wonders for difficult child when he was coming out of his battle for anxiety. However, it worked for him because HE was working hard on his behaviors and the reward was just what it was suppose to be, a small recognition of a job well done. For most kids, if the reward system is used in chart form, it will be short lived as the kid gets too bored with it and wants it to become more (bigger reward for less work type of thing). Also, for most kids, the consequence or reward becomes the focus of the behavior so they really are not learning anything. They need to learn to behave properly because it is the right thing to do. It is easier for us most of the time to give a consequence (that was bad, you need to be disciplined) or reward (if you are good you will get this) than it is to deal directly with the situation (talk about why that was not a good choice and what could have been differently or point out why the discission was a good one). Gotta keep trying to communicate every chance you get. They may pretend like they are not listening but somewhere along the line they will pick up what you are trying to teach. [/QUOTE]
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