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do consequence or rewards ever work for your difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 370887" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>For Kanga, sometimes a reward will work but only if the requested behavior isn't too hard. Consequences just escalated things.</p><p></p><p>For the boys, everything had to be immediate. When Tigger was 5 or 6, his therapist had us buy a bunch(100s) of poker chips, a big clear plastic container for Tigger and a big fanny pack for us. Every single time that Tigger did something correct, we were suppose to state what he did correctly and give him a chip to put in his container. When the container was full, he got to pick a prize. This worked amazingly well. There were no negatives - he couldn't lose tokens for being bad. We saw the most improvement with him using this instant feedback. While at 10, your DS would probably be too embarrassed to carry around a jar of tokens, maybe some other way of instant rewards (give him pennies and let him trade them in for dollars at the end of the day with a trip to the dollar store 1-2 times per week???</p><p></p><p>We are just now at the point where we can delay rewards and apply consequences. But the consequences still have to be short (ie. grounded to his room for 1-2 hours max).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 370887, member: 1169"] For Kanga, sometimes a reward will work but only if the requested behavior isn't too hard. Consequences just escalated things. For the boys, everything had to be immediate. When Tigger was 5 or 6, his therapist had us buy a bunch(100s) of poker chips, a big clear plastic container for Tigger and a big fanny pack for us. Every single time that Tigger did something correct, we were suppose to state what he did correctly and give him a chip to put in his container. When the container was full, he got to pick a prize. This worked amazingly well. There were no negatives - he couldn't lose tokens for being bad. We saw the most improvement with him using this instant feedback. While at 10, your DS would probably be too embarrassed to carry around a jar of tokens, maybe some other way of instant rewards (give him pennies and let him trade them in for dollars at the end of the day with a trip to the dollar store 1-2 times per week??? We are just now at the point where we can delay rewards and apply consequences. But the consequences still have to be short (ie. grounded to his room for 1-2 hours max). [/QUOTE]
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