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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 264833" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>They CAN move past that stage. But it takes a lot of work from both of you. difficult child has to learn to wait and you have to learn to NOT EVER give into the NNOW NOW NOW NOW NOW routine. Normal requests can be done now or later, but when they are pressuring you like that you MUST find a way to NOT give in. make them wait with-o pestering you about it for a few minutes, working up to an hour as you gradually increase.</p><p></p><p>It is also part of the boundary issues many of us face with our difficult children. It is so over the top urgent that we change our plans and let them infringe upon us with their wants. Because it is usually over a WANT and not a NEED.</p><p></p><p>I hope things get calmer. Are you still on quit mode? Letting husband handle all the difficult child stuff? If so, then tell difficult child that sure, he can have it, as soon as dad says it is ok and can do it with/for him. Be calm when you say it, and then leave the room. </p><p></p><p>It sure has been a rough week for you, hasn't it? You will make it through this. Sooner or later.</p><p></p><p>I will pray for sooner!</p><p></p><p>Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 264833, member: 1233"] They CAN move past that stage. But it takes a lot of work from both of you. difficult child has to learn to wait and you have to learn to NOT EVER give into the NNOW NOW NOW NOW NOW routine. Normal requests can be done now or later, but when they are pressuring you like that you MUST find a way to NOT give in. make them wait with-o pestering you about it for a few minutes, working up to an hour as you gradually increase. It is also part of the boundary issues many of us face with our difficult children. It is so over the top urgent that we change our plans and let them infringe upon us with their wants. Because it is usually over a WANT and not a NEED. I hope things get calmer. Are you still on quit mode? Letting husband handle all the difficult child stuff? If so, then tell difficult child that sure, he can have it, as soon as dad says it is ok and can do it with/for him. Be calm when you say it, and then leave the room. It sure has been a rough week for you, hasn't it? You will make it through this. Sooner or later. I will pray for sooner! Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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