I'm new to this site, and would like a little honest input from people with experience. My daughter just turned 4 last week. I've been having issues with her behavior since she was around 2. I have 2 older children, and can honestly say I've never seen a child behave like her. She can be impulsive, aggressive, and extremely short tempered, above and beyond the typical temper tantrum. The actual things she does is "typical bad behavior" for her age, but she takes the reaction up 100 notches from the norm. She gets angry and screams often when someone just looks at her. Up until a few months ago, we didn't even go to stores because if someone would look at her, she would yell and hit ME. 75% of the time, I have to carry her out of preschool kicking and screaming, because she spazzes out, running around and screaming when she see's me come, then she's fine 5 minutes later. 1st reaction would be, she's trying to get attention, but I don't make a big deal of it-I just pick her up and go, and she's done this fo months. If one of her friend's happens to go get her backpack for her, it's a new battle all together, and she yells at the top of her lungs & cries. She gets frustrated quickly and completely loses control, screaming and flailing. She plays with her older siblings just fine, but when her father's home, she has issues. He can't sit by her or do 'anything' for her. If she wants milk, and he gets it instead of me, it gets thrown across the room. If he looks across the table at her during dinner she yells. If he tries to tuck her in, she comes screaming bloody murder across the house to me. But then an hour later "I want daddy". I've gotten the typical "you've spoiled her" blarb, but I've tried the tough love "if daddy doesn't do it, it doesn't get done", but weeks at a time later, it just doesn't work. But she also can be the sweetest, nicest, hugging-on-me girl. I just never know what I'm going to get at any given time. It's like split personalities, with battles on a daily basis. I literally get physically exhausted sometimes dealing with her. She has a dr. appointment. next week, where I would like to bring some of these issues up, but I don't want to get blown off with "she just needs a time out". Aside from the behavior issues, she doesn't sleep well--started as night terrors 2 yrs. ago, which are diminishing, but she still wakes 6 out of 7 nights/week--which was blown off by the dr. once before. Also, I feel she may have a speech issue, but I'm not sure. She talks and can get her point across, but unclearly, compared to her classmates. Am I over-reacting? Do I have legitimate concerns? What can I do or say so the doctor takes it seriously? I don't want to sound like the crazy mom that thinks her kid has all kinds of problems all of a sudden, but if there are problems, I want to catch them as soon as I can.