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Do people choose who they love?
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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 338645" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>I think women can choose to love women easier than a man chooses to love a man. Women are attracted to and desire attention and affection. For a man it is physical, so I believe there are men that are not choosing to be gay, they just are. I think that is the case for some women as well. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway, this has been interesting for me. As a recently engaged woman about to take the plunge for the first time...it is scary! It is his first time, too. </p><p>I knew I loved DF the first time we dated, but I was not ready for him in my life yet. I was sure to keep in touch and thought about him all the time when we were apart. I think I knew he loved me, too, and that made me not scared that I may lose him by not being with him for a few years. </p><p>When I as ready I asked him to lunch and we just picked up where we left off. This time I was ready. He took it slow because he figured he scared me away once he better not do that again! LOL! </p><p> </p><p>We have had our bumps over the last 7 years, it has been 11 years since our first date. But, like he said when he proposed, "I don't want to live my life without you, Wend." I feel the same way. I once read something that said don't marry the one you can live with, marry the one you can not live without. </p><p> </p><p>But, to get to the real question - yes I could choose not to be with DF, and he could choose not to be with me. But, we both want to be together. That part, I am not sure if it is a choice or not. Did we choose to want this? Or is it just...there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 338645, member: 391"] I think women can choose to love women easier than a man chooses to love a man. Women are attracted to and desire attention and affection. For a man it is physical, so I believe there are men that are not choosing to be gay, they just are. I think that is the case for some women as well. Anyway, this has been interesting for me. As a recently engaged woman about to take the plunge for the first time...it is scary! It is his first time, too. I knew I loved DF the first time we dated, but I was not ready for him in my life yet. I was sure to keep in touch and thought about him all the time when we were apart. I think I knew he loved me, too, and that made me not scared that I may lose him by not being with him for a few years. When I as ready I asked him to lunch and we just picked up where we left off. This time I was ready. He took it slow because he figured he scared me away once he better not do that again! LOL! We have had our bumps over the last 7 years, it has been 11 years since our first date. But, like he said when he proposed, "I don't want to live my life without you, Wend." I feel the same way. I once read something that said don't marry the one you can live with, marry the one you can not live without. But, to get to the real question - yes I could choose not to be with DF, and he could choose not to be with me. But, we both want to be together. That part, I am not sure if it is a choice or not. Did we choose to want this? Or is it just...there. [/QUOTE]
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