My Great-Grandmother had a saying..."Love falls where it falls, even if it's on a cow patty".
I don't think we have control over the initial spark, that sudden attraction to someone, that hitch in our heart-beat. However, we do have a choice on whether we respond to it or not. When we are really young and stupid, we don't realize that there is a choice. (my ex and I are a good example)
The first time I saw husband, there was a very strong connection. I knew at that moment that this could be the ONE. However, since it was the second time for both of us and we each had our own kids to protect, our first date was a five hour long interview. We made a choice to follow through from that initial spark.
Over time, especially with difficult children and the mother in law from heck, we've had to make the choice to recommit to our love over and over. Life can tear apart any relationship. It's the daily choice of staying together and being in love that counts. And it has come down to us telling each other "I'm too stubborn to let this thing between us die. Whatever it takes, let's work on us." And our love grows stronger....even with husband being 3,000 miles away...forever. Okay, not forever, but they (the company) are talking about extending these guys out until summer???
When your relationship at the moment consists of 1 hour of phone time a day...It's a an actual decision to stay in love with the person.