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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 370776" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>Nope.</p><p> </p><p>So many lame excuses and rationalizations why not too, lol.</p><p> </p><p>My parents moved me all over and around the world as a kid so I never had those childhood best friends for very long. I am an only child so just got used to being a loner and enjoying my own company.</p><p> </p><p>On a pesonal note, I do have times of energy and times of lethargy due to mild cycling so it's hard to be consistant with motivation and effort. I can be a flake but have also notice so many other people are as well so connecting those dots gets sketchy.</p><p> </p><p>I am a stay at home Mom in the middle of farm country so my opportunities are limited. I am also an "import" so getting in the middle of long standing social networks is a little scary and difficult. A lot of drinkers and cheaters and I am too grown for that.</p><p> </p><p>Biggest problem, I have serious trust issues. My life used to be filled with the wrong kind of friend and it left me pretty jaded. It boiled down to getting done dirty by the people closest to me on a few occasions. My best friend slept with my ex (he was my husband at the time) my and my ex's guy friends would either cover for ex when he was doing dirty deeds or they were up to their own dirty deeds which made them a bad influence. Seems like so many people have an addiction to "taking their pants off" and can't function in healthy, trusting adult friendships. It's like playing cards, long chats over coffee or having a BBQ just won't do anymore.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite5" alt=":confused:" title="Confused :confused:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":confused:" /></p><p> </p><p>I've been hurt so badly by people I allowed into my heart that I just am not interested in close relationships anymore. I wish I had a girlfriend but it would give me anxiety. I know it is MY issue but if I ever came home from the store and found my gal pal at my house just having an innocent conversation with husband without me there I would lose my bleeping mind. I just can't deal with that kind of emotional test and growth anymore. I have had to rebuild my life too many times...</p><p> </p><p>Amazingly enough difficult child has had nothing to do with this mess in my life. I'm willing to bet my lack of friendships has hurt him though.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 370776, member: 8617"] Nope. So many lame excuses and rationalizations why not too, lol. My parents moved me all over and around the world as a kid so I never had those childhood best friends for very long. I am an only child so just got used to being a loner and enjoying my own company. On a pesonal note, I do have times of energy and times of lethargy due to mild cycling so it's hard to be consistant with motivation and effort. I can be a flake but have also notice so many other people are as well so connecting those dots gets sketchy. I am a stay at home Mom in the middle of farm country so my opportunities are limited. I am also an "import" so getting in the middle of long standing social networks is a little scary and difficult. A lot of drinkers and cheaters and I am too grown for that. Biggest problem, I have serious trust issues. My life used to be filled with the wrong kind of friend and it left me pretty jaded. It boiled down to getting done dirty by the people closest to me on a few occasions. My best friend slept with my ex (he was my husband at the time) my and my ex's guy friends would either cover for ex when he was doing dirty deeds or they were up to their own dirty deeds which made them a bad influence. Seems like so many people have an addiction to "taking their pants off" and can't function in healthy, trusting adult friendships. It's like playing cards, long chats over coffee or having a BBQ just won't do anymore.:confused1: I've been hurt so badly by people I allowed into my heart that I just am not interested in close relationships anymore. I wish I had a girlfriend but it would give me anxiety. I know it is MY issue but if I ever came home from the store and found my gal pal at my house just having an innocent conversation with husband without me there I would lose my bleeping mind. I just can't deal with that kind of emotional test and growth anymore. I have had to rebuild my life too many times... Amazingly enough difficult child has had nothing to do with this mess in my life. I'm willing to bet my lack of friendships has hurt him though.:frowny: [/QUOTE]
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