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WearyWoman
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Hi again, everyone - Weary Woman, here . . . and dangerously wondering again! Yes, I'm really curious as to whether you have found yourselves more socially isolated as a family due to having difficult children in your home. Do you have close friends? If so, how are you able to devote yourself to the friendships given the extreme demands of parenting - physically and emotionally?
Over time, I have found myself more and more isolated from activities and friendships and the community due to the behavioral and parenting issues of our kids (mostly the young one now). We don't volunteer to help at school or get involved in anything, as we simply don't have the ability (or energy) with our work schedules, therapy sessions, doctor appointments, etc., not to mention the fact that we don't have childcare during the evenings or on weekends for our youngest difficult child.
I don't remember the last time we (my husband, kids and me) even rode in the same vehicle together.
I can truly say (sadly) that I no longer have any friends - I mean none. We have moved a couple of times, which doesn't help either. But, I miss having female friendships, shopping, movies, and just a girls' night out at a restaurant or something. I have no one except my mom to call and talk with, and we don't even invite our families often due to the disruptive behavior issues.
In fact, our families don't invite us over either. My sister has my parents over all the time - cooks them a meal and has neighbors and their kids over to swim in their pool, but never us. I know why.
I recently learned that I have skin cancer, and I'm only in my 30's (never used a tanning booth and not a sun worshiper)! I just miss having a close friend in my life so much.
I know I'm whining, and it's not helpful to do so.
I am chronically fatigued and feel anxious every morning when I wake up - wondering if the day will go well or not - whether I'll be able to manage. Significant stress is unavoidable.
I don't know who I am any more, outside of my role as difficult children' mom. Whoever I used to be has been pushed away and aside because our difficult children need me more than I need anything. Still, I wonder about the long-term toll this is taking on my husband and me.
Over time, I have found myself more and more isolated from activities and friendships and the community due to the behavioral and parenting issues of our kids (mostly the young one now). We don't volunteer to help at school or get involved in anything, as we simply don't have the ability (or energy) with our work schedules, therapy sessions, doctor appointments, etc., not to mention the fact that we don't have childcare during the evenings or on weekends for our youngest difficult child.
I don't remember the last time we (my husband, kids and me) even rode in the same vehicle together.
I can truly say (sadly) that I no longer have any friends - I mean none. We have moved a couple of times, which doesn't help either. But, I miss having female friendships, shopping, movies, and just a girls' night out at a restaurant or something. I have no one except my mom to call and talk with, and we don't even invite our families often due to the disruptive behavior issues.
In fact, our families don't invite us over either. My sister has my parents over all the time - cooks them a meal and has neighbors and their kids over to swim in their pool, but never us. I know why.
I recently learned that I have skin cancer, and I'm only in my 30's (never used a tanning booth and not a sun worshiper)! I just miss having a close friend in my life so much.
I know I'm whining, and it's not helpful to do so.
I am chronically fatigued and feel anxious every morning when I wake up - wondering if the day will go well or not - whether I'll be able to manage. Significant stress is unavoidable.
I don't know who I am any more, outside of my role as difficult children' mom. Whoever I used to be has been pushed away and aside because our difficult children need me more than I need anything. Still, I wonder about the long-term toll this is taking on my husband and me.