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<blockquote data-quote="ryzgal" data-source="post: 371114"><p>wow, I logged on today with 2 specific topics in mind. one was the friend thing. all of your responses have been so helpful!</p><p> </p><p>I have found one TRUE friend, who has been with me through a lot of the stuff with my difficult child for the last years. Our boys are best friends. Her son is a easy child, but she has always been kind, understanding, considerate, helpful etc and NEVER judgemental. I have lost many friends, I won't say <em>because </em>of difficult child, but because of my inablitiy to relate to others with their own children, and from being hurt after being stabbed in the back after sharing personal issues. Sadly many of the people who turned out to be untrustworthy were people I considered "sisters in Christ" at the church I worked for. </p><p>Having a child with ODD who consistently rejects religion was especially hard when being a christian and having a job where I was a worship director for the children's department. Anyways, since then I became even more untrusting of people, and therefore withdrew even more from social events. My son has one best friend and maybe a handful of other "friends" and he sticks to himself a lot, so it was easy to avoid social situations with him. I do feel bad for not maybe forcing him to be more outgoing, and being more of a joiner in athletic things. But I thought i was respecting his indiviuality and personality. Now I see it was probably an easy excuse as well. </p><p>We moved to a state away from all our family, but the family we do talk to (just husband parents) don't really get it, and think it is a discipline problem. Which might be the most irritating thing ever. I have a couple friends who live back there, and while I love them dearly, I don't think they even have a clue what I'm talking about when I divulge any problems I'm facing. I get a lot of advice (some out of love, some out of them just thinking they know best!) but ithe advice still boils down to either not being christian enough, not being a good enough parent etc. </p><p>I considered looking up a group that is local here, just to get together and meet some parents. but then chickened out lol <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/redface.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":redface:" title="redface :redface:" data-shortname=":redface:" /></p><p> </p><p>Thanks again for all of you out there, just being here on this board and sharing your experiences is more helpful and appreciated than I can express!</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Stac</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ryzgal, post: 371114"] wow, I logged on today with 2 specific topics in mind. one was the friend thing. all of your responses have been so helpful! I have found one TRUE friend, who has been with me through a lot of the stuff with my difficult child for the last years. Our boys are best friends. Her son is a easy child, but she has always been kind, understanding, considerate, helpful etc and NEVER judgemental. I have lost many friends, I won't say [I]because [/I]of difficult child, but because of my inablitiy to relate to others with their own children, and from being hurt after being stabbed in the back after sharing personal issues. Sadly many of the people who turned out to be untrustworthy were people I considered "sisters in Christ" at the church I worked for. Having a child with ODD who consistently rejects religion was especially hard when being a christian and having a job where I was a worship director for the children's department. Anyways, since then I became even more untrusting of people, and therefore withdrew even more from social events. My son has one best friend and maybe a handful of other "friends" and he sticks to himself a lot, so it was easy to avoid social situations with him. I do feel bad for not maybe forcing him to be more outgoing, and being more of a joiner in athletic things. But I thought i was respecting his indiviuality and personality. Now I see it was probably an easy excuse as well. We moved to a state away from all our family, but the family we do talk to (just husband parents) don't really get it, and think it is a discipline problem. Which might be the most irritating thing ever. I have a couple friends who live back there, and while I love them dearly, I don't think they even have a clue what I'm talking about when I divulge any problems I'm facing. I get a lot of advice (some out of love, some out of them just thinking they know best!) but ithe advice still boils down to either not being christian enough, not being a good enough parent etc. I considered looking up a group that is local here, just to get together and meet some parents. but then chickened out lol :blushing: Thanks again for all of you out there, just being here on this board and sharing your experiences is more helpful and appreciated than I can express! Hugs Stac [/QUOTE]
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