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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 418637" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I agree that evaluation is needed for Enigma's child. The "lying" about things like the remote or even taking it when told not to, are not necessarily signs of problems. Kids your daughter's age do not really grasp the difference between reality and fantasy and lies and truth. Your comments about her being deceitful before age 1 reflect an attitude toward her behavior that is not necessarily rooted in the realities of child development at that age. Kids before the age of 1 can lie, I guess, but more likely they are exploring truth and fantasy and often they get caught up in a thought or investigation or playing and simply do not realize that what you said applies to what they are doing. Before the age of 1 most children have a very limited grasp of language also, so this can contribute to the perception that the child is lying or being deceitful when in reality they simply are not developed enough to grasp the concepts of lying and deceit.</p><p> </p><p>Regardless, given the family history and your sense that something isn't right, I would contact the doctor to set up and early screening for autism, etc.... While many of us are not up on the latest research, I have it from an excellent neuropsychologist that the latest research is starting to show that adhd may actually be on the autistic spectrum rahter than being something totally foreign to it.</p><p> </p><p>PLEASE include screening for sensory issues and sensory integration disorder by an Occupational Therapist (OT) in the tests you have done. The earlier you start brushing therapy and the right types of sensory diet for her individual needs, the more she can move past them as an adult. </p><p> </p><p>I do NOT mean to say that you are wrong in your perceptions of her, simply that some of the things in your post may not be taken well if you go to a counselor, doctor, or whomever does the screening - simply because what may seem deceitful to you may trigger a reaction that you are too harsh or expect more than a child her age could normally do. I am WELL aware that sometimes we describe something and others say "oh, all kids do that" or "it is normal at X age for a child to do that, you are expecting too much" etc... when what is really going on is that the behaviors that are a problem are taken to such an extreme in degree or frequency or whatever that it really IS a problem. A LOt of the time people hear us Warrior Moms describe what a problem is and they don't realize that our difficult children take it to extremes that many people don't even realize a child COULD take it to.</p><p> </p><p>You may be able to get a LOT of help through Head Start, esp if she is found to have a problem. It will not depend on your income if she has a problem and they often have a lot of resources, esp starting at around age 3.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 418637, member: 1233"] I agree that evaluation is needed for Enigma's child. The "lying" about things like the remote or even taking it when told not to, are not necessarily signs of problems. Kids your daughter's age do not really grasp the difference between reality and fantasy and lies and truth. Your comments about her being deceitful before age 1 reflect an attitude toward her behavior that is not necessarily rooted in the realities of child development at that age. Kids before the age of 1 can lie, I guess, but more likely they are exploring truth and fantasy and often they get caught up in a thought or investigation or playing and simply do not realize that what you said applies to what they are doing. Before the age of 1 most children have a very limited grasp of language also, so this can contribute to the perception that the child is lying or being deceitful when in reality they simply are not developed enough to grasp the concepts of lying and deceit. Regardless, given the family history and your sense that something isn't right, I would contact the doctor to set up and early screening for autism, etc.... While many of us are not up on the latest research, I have it from an excellent neuropsychologist that the latest research is starting to show that adhd may actually be on the autistic spectrum rahter than being something totally foreign to it. PLEASE include screening for sensory issues and sensory integration disorder by an Occupational Therapist (OT) in the tests you have done. The earlier you start brushing therapy and the right types of sensory diet for her individual needs, the more she can move past them as an adult. I do NOT mean to say that you are wrong in your perceptions of her, simply that some of the things in your post may not be taken well if you go to a counselor, doctor, or whomever does the screening - simply because what may seem deceitful to you may trigger a reaction that you are too harsh or expect more than a child her age could normally do. I am WELL aware that sometimes we describe something and others say "oh, all kids do that" or "it is normal at X age for a child to do that, you are expecting too much" etc... when what is really going on is that the behaviors that are a problem are taken to such an extreme in degree or frequency or whatever that it really IS a problem. A LOt of the time people hear us Warrior Moms describe what a problem is and they don't realize that our difficult children take it to extremes that many people don't even realize a child COULD take it to. You may be able to get a LOT of help through Head Start, esp if she is found to have a problem. It will not depend on your income if she has a problem and they often have a lot of resources, esp starting at around age 3. [/QUOTE]
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