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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 15398" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Janet,</p><p> I don't know about what each girl is like but if Jamie's future m i l has a shower for her, it shouldn't cause a fuss. They are two separate and adult couples. You treat them equal but other people don't have to. If her mom can do more, be happy. It's not a competition it's to Jamie's benefit that they will struggle just a tiny bit less. </p><p> There are five of us kids. We all got about the same from my parents but each one of us have different things from in laws. One couple the bride was an only child. Another remarried the same husband. One had a nicer wedding that others. My middle sis married at the country club and had a very lovely reception. Beautiful. I had the fire hall, buffet dinner. I don't feel jealousy. It just wasn't/isn't a competition. All of us worked hard but some do better than others. </p><p></p><p> The truth is we want our kids to do better than we do. It's what mom's want for their kids. If one son does better than the other, should he feel like he shouldn't? Would you think it's wrong to do well and find success? Would you be unhappy if he has a steady job with benefits and is able to buy a house. If her parents give a bit of a down payment on a home would everyone be unhappy or would they be happy for their brother's success. It seems to me that Jamie has always done for his brothers. He has shared what he had and his home. If he is able to build with his future wife and child a decent life, then more power to them. </p><p></p><p>A gift is a gift and should be appreciated and respected. It is simply poor manners to not acknowledge and thank you for the gift. Both of them should be embarassed to not thank you. </p><p>Jamie's been married before. He has an idea what it takes. He has to make good choices before instead of being surprised later on that she isn't happy with his choices.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 15398, member: 3"] Janet, I don't know about what each girl is like but if Jamie's future m i l has a shower for her, it shouldn't cause a fuss. They are two separate and adult couples. You treat them equal but other people don't have to. If her mom can do more, be happy. It's not a competition it's to Jamie's benefit that they will struggle just a tiny bit less. There are five of us kids. We all got about the same from my parents but each one of us have different things from in laws. One couple the bride was an only child. Another remarried the same husband. One had a nicer wedding that others. My middle sis married at the country club and had a very lovely reception. Beautiful. I had the fire hall, buffet dinner. I don't feel jealousy. It just wasn't/isn't a competition. All of us worked hard but some do better than others. The truth is we want our kids to do better than we do. It's what mom's want for their kids. If one son does better than the other, should he feel like he shouldn't? Would you think it's wrong to do well and find success? Would you be unhappy if he has a steady job with benefits and is able to buy a house. If her parents give a bit of a down payment on a home would everyone be unhappy or would they be happy for their brother's success. It seems to me that Jamie has always done for his brothers. He has shared what he had and his home. If he is able to build with his future wife and child a decent life, then more power to them. A gift is a gift and should be appreciated and respected. It is simply poor manners to not acknowledge and thank you for the gift. Both of them should be embarassed to not thank you. Jamie's been married before. He has an idea what it takes. He has to make good choices before instead of being surprised later on that she isn't happy with his choices. [/QUOTE]
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