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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 389117" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Give the refeeding lady a chance. Often the first steps seem so tiny that they are stupid. If you don't have the problem you often can't see hwo big the first steps are. Also the first visits often are purposely designed to NOT push a child so that a rapport can be established. The chicken, bread, carrot, etc.. are BIG steps. You didn't expect difficult child to read the dictionary the first day she looked at a book. She started as a baby with books that didn't have words, just pictures. Or with pictures that were just black and white as a baby. from there reading was taught very slowly.</p><p> </p><p>It seems like eating shouldn't be a big deal and the phobia isn't based on anything real so difficult child should be able to just snap out of it. You already know that isn't going to happen. I totally understand the impatience and frustration, but difficult child still has to start with teensy weensy steps like chocolate and icing and liquids. </p><p> </p><p>I am NOT saying to give this lady forever, but a few visits to start to get things moving is likely reasonable. Even if all difficult child is getting is sugar. You cannot force this anymore than you can flap your arms and fly. </p><p> </p><p>The doctor is likely right about Oregon. If it is the only place that really can treat food phobias then it is where she needs to be. As you have said, what they are doing now isn't really accomplishing much. It is good that she is gaining a little bit, but she isn't really getting better even if she is eating. Eating isn't really the primary goal. It is the result. Dealing with the phobia has to be the primary goal. No one you have found to this point really knows how to treat this kind of phobia. Have you looked for a doctor who treats phobias primarily to see if they have any insight or advice or methods that might work better than what is happening now? Or even just enhance what is happening now/</p><p> </p><p>Either way, I am awed that you are able to keep on coping with-o ending up in a hospital yourself. You are doing an awesome job and difficult child is blessed to have you for her mother.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 389117, member: 1233"] Give the refeeding lady a chance. Often the first steps seem so tiny that they are stupid. If you don't have the problem you often can't see hwo big the first steps are. Also the first visits often are purposely designed to NOT push a child so that a rapport can be established. The chicken, bread, carrot, etc.. are BIG steps. You didn't expect difficult child to read the dictionary the first day she looked at a book. She started as a baby with books that didn't have words, just pictures. Or with pictures that were just black and white as a baby. from there reading was taught very slowly. It seems like eating shouldn't be a big deal and the phobia isn't based on anything real so difficult child should be able to just snap out of it. You already know that isn't going to happen. I totally understand the impatience and frustration, but difficult child still has to start with teensy weensy steps like chocolate and icing and liquids. I am NOT saying to give this lady forever, but a few visits to start to get things moving is likely reasonable. Even if all difficult child is getting is sugar. You cannot force this anymore than you can flap your arms and fly. The doctor is likely right about Oregon. If it is the only place that really can treat food phobias then it is where she needs to be. As you have said, what they are doing now isn't really accomplishing much. It is good that she is gaining a little bit, but she isn't really getting better even if she is eating. Eating isn't really the primary goal. It is the result. Dealing with the phobia has to be the primary goal. No one you have found to this point really knows how to treat this kind of phobia. Have you looked for a doctor who treats phobias primarily to see if they have any insight or advice or methods that might work better than what is happening now? Or even just enhance what is happening now/ Either way, I am awed that you are able to keep on coping with-o ending up in a hospital yourself. You are doing an awesome job and difficult child is blessed to have you for her mother. [/QUOTE]
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