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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 314251" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Piper, </p><p> </p><p>I was thinking about you today, and hope it has been a better one for you and your lovely son. </p><p> </p><p>I want you to think about this the next time you feel like everyone is looking at you like you are a horrible Mom. </p><p> </p><p>A Mother in the handicapped spot at a grocery store, lowers the motorized ramp on her van and rolls out her seemingly severely retarted and physically disfigured child. The child is yelling and flailing. The Mother appears calm and continues to strap the child in her wheelchair and work the levers to roll the ramp up. </p><p> </p><p>You're six years old and have never seen this before - what goes through your mind? Do you understand what is wrong with the little girl? Do you think immediately something is WRONG with the little girl? Are you a little afraid of the little girl and her loud voice, yelling and flailing? </p><p> </p><p>Fast Forward to now....same picture.....same scene....same questions. </p><p> </p><p>Different answers. Why? Because you've experienced seeing handicapped people in wheelchairs that have her level of disability. It's no longer unusual, frightening, and it's not wrong - it just IS. There's nothing wrong with her parents. She has a disability and she has parents that love her. </p><p>She's a kid...probably a really nice and funny kid. Probably has really tired and loving parents. </p><p> </p><p>Sometimes when people see our kids - they have NO idea what they are seeing or they are seeing this particular disability for the very first time. Here's where you get the opportunity to say - "Isn't Conduct Disorder a wonderful disability?, or YOu just gotta LOVE ADHD, or.....YOu know we were wondering when the Autism was going to show." and while there is nothing FUN about a disability - it' doesn't have to be all bitter either. People will remember what you say and go home and google it too. - "She said CONDUCT DISORDER - MY word what is THAT?" and belive me - you get a lot more respect being open than trying to hide it." You wouldn't hide crutches or a wheel chair? And you can't hide a tantrum....I know I've tried....blankets are just useless.</p><p> </p><p>Disabilities don't have to be SEEN to be a disability.....emotional disabilities like conduct disorders are real. ADHD is real. Bi-Polarism, is real. Autism is real. Schizophrenia is real. They are all disabilities, they all affect people. People have parents....and some parents love their kids a lot, and some parents who love their kids A LOT are just people who are tired. </p><p> </p><p>Not bad parents....just people. </p><p> </p><p>Unplug the neon....join the group.....we'll leave a light on for ya - (won't be neon though) lol. </p><p> </p><p>I'm just a parent too....(and if I HAVE to be a spice girl I'd prefer not to be Sage - I'd like to be something like Cinnamon or Pumpkin - <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" />)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 314251, member: 4964"] Piper, I was thinking about you today, and hope it has been a better one for you and your lovely son. I want you to think about this the next time you feel like everyone is looking at you like you are a horrible Mom. A Mother in the handicapped spot at a grocery store, lowers the motorized ramp on her van and rolls out her seemingly severely retarted and physically disfigured child. The child is yelling and flailing. The Mother appears calm and continues to strap the child in her wheelchair and work the levers to roll the ramp up. You're six years old and have never seen this before - what goes through your mind? Do you understand what is wrong with the little girl? Do you think immediately something is WRONG with the little girl? Are you a little afraid of the little girl and her loud voice, yelling and flailing? Fast Forward to now....same picture.....same scene....same questions. Different answers. Why? Because you've experienced seeing handicapped people in wheelchairs that have her level of disability. It's no longer unusual, frightening, and it's not wrong - it just IS. There's nothing wrong with her parents. She has a disability and she has parents that love her. She's a kid...probably a really nice and funny kid. Probably has really tired and loving parents. Sometimes when people see our kids - they have NO idea what they are seeing or they are seeing this particular disability for the very first time. Here's where you get the opportunity to say - "Isn't Conduct Disorder a wonderful disability?, or YOu just gotta LOVE ADHD, or.....YOu know we were wondering when the Autism was going to show." and while there is nothing FUN about a disability - it' doesn't have to be all bitter either. People will remember what you say and go home and google it too. - "She said CONDUCT DISORDER - MY word what is THAT?" and belive me - you get a lot more respect being open than trying to hide it." You wouldn't hide crutches or a wheel chair? And you can't hide a tantrum....I know I've tried....blankets are just useless. Disabilities don't have to be SEEN to be a disability.....emotional disabilities like conduct disorders are real. ADHD is real. Bi-Polarism, is real. Autism is real. Schizophrenia is real. They are all disabilities, they all affect people. People have parents....and some parents love their kids a lot, and some parents who love their kids A LOT are just people who are tired. Not bad parents....just people. Unplug the neon....join the group.....we'll leave a light on for ya - (won't be neon though) lol. I'm just a parent too....(and if I HAVE to be a spice girl I'd prefer not to be Sage - I'd like to be something like Cinnamon or Pumpkin - :raspberry-tounge:) [/QUOTE]
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