Yes it was with my mother and he settled down and worked and provided for us well both did but he was allowed by my mother a lot of freedom to put it kindly and my mother decided to ignore things I am sure he loved her. My brother that we are talking about was the most similar with my father but me the other ones never had the charisma my father and brother had, to be like them.
I got really unmotivated at the beginning of my adult life that is why I stayed so much with my mother until I got my motivation. When I finally got a job it was because of a girl also who motivated me as I said there some people who can change you. You change for the people you love.
Most men in my country I will not say mature later they just try later to settle and have a family more like in their thirty its not a recent thing but its more common now. Not like it was uncommon before like in every developing or developed world.
I think your son and many others and even OP's one can change if they find that person They will not change for them they probably do not believe they are worth the change you know because the low self esteem problem many have. I think that is the problem with most Difficult Child they do not really care about them.
