Hi, I'm new here. I'm so glad to have found this site. I feel so alone in dealing with and trying to understand my son's problems. Do any of you have an adult child who has absolutely no substance abuse problems, is not mentally ill, but lives his life like someone who does have those issues? My son is now 40 years old and has nothing. He can never hold a job, is about to be evicted from his apartment. It's like he won't deal with anything until he's absolutely forced too. My husband and I have tried and tried to help him. It's all to no avail. We've made sure he's had a car, paid his car insurance, etc, so he could get to a job, but now he's behind on child support (he has one young child) and his license has been taken away. I know I can't change him, but I worry all the time and I can hardly ever talk about him without crying. I'm so sick of feeling like this, but I can't seem to not be emotional about him. What do you all do to stay strong? Do any of you have a grown child like this? Thank you.