Given your age... your son will be old enough to have missed out on many potential diagnoses. He was - and probably is - different. He doesn't think the way other people think. And because back then we didn't know much about people who were different... some of us who are different made it somehow, and others did not.
At his age, he would have to consent to this, but if he would be willing, it might be useful for him to have a comprehensive evaluation. Why? Does it even matter now?Well... yes. Because if, for example, he is somewhere on the autism spectrum, he may qualify for assistance in various ways - assistance that will remove the responsibility from you, while still providing for his needs. It might be one way to break the impasse.
