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Does anyone have a 20 something daughter who has ODD and depression?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 597630" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would say her problems are beyond ODD, which is usually given to young children, or just depression. A lot of people are depressed and do at least function and don't rage. I'm guessing (and I could be wrong) she is either a substance abuser of some sort or has a personality disorder, like Borderline. </p><p></p><p>I have a 35 year old son who has a good job, but never did get his life together, however he could never live with me. I couldn't handle it and no way am I putting up with a 35 year old raging in my house, and, yes, he still has his anger fits, as I call them. He is very nice at times, but when he loses it, in my opinion he's a danger to the rest of my family. Fortunately (and I say this with a heavy heart) he lives a few states away from me and is too phobic to drive up here. I do not think he is safe to be around when he gets mad and I never know what will set him off. Does any of this sound familiar? I think a lot of us have secretly broken hearts because our grown adult children have never actually grown up. However, most of us don't allow them to live with us.</p><p></p><p>You may want to start reading about detachment. If she is a substance abuser, twelve step meetings are really helping me to stop being a doormat and taking care of my own life. And you deserve a good life full of peace too. Your daughter can get services in the community and needs to take control of her mental health issues at her age. If she won't, well, then it is her fault. You can not do it for her. I would not allow her to be rageful or disrespectful in your house and I would make her get at least a part time job, pay you rent, and do chores around the house...or I would not keep her at home. The stress can be lethal to us.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you and I hope you can find a peaceful way to emotionally detach from your daughter, whom you have no control over. The only person we can control is ourselves. Same with your daughter, mentally ill or not (I have mental health issues...bad ones...and keeping myself stable is my responsibility). Take care and good thoughts to you <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 597630, member: 1550"] I would say her problems are beyond ODD, which is usually given to young children, or just depression. A lot of people are depressed and do at least function and don't rage. I'm guessing (and I could be wrong) she is either a substance abuser of some sort or has a personality disorder, like Borderline. I have a 35 year old son who has a good job, but never did get his life together, however he could never live with me. I couldn't handle it and no way am I putting up with a 35 year old raging in my house, and, yes, he still has his anger fits, as I call them. He is very nice at times, but when he loses it, in my opinion he's a danger to the rest of my family. Fortunately (and I say this with a heavy heart) he lives a few states away from me and is too phobic to drive up here. I do not think he is safe to be around when he gets mad and I never know what will set him off. Does any of this sound familiar? I think a lot of us have secretly broken hearts because our grown adult children have never actually grown up. However, most of us don't allow them to live with us. You may want to start reading about detachment. If she is a substance abuser, twelve step meetings are really helping me to stop being a doormat and taking care of my own life. And you deserve a good life full of peace too. Your daughter can get services in the community and needs to take control of her mental health issues at her age. If she won't, well, then it is her fault. You can not do it for her. I would not allow her to be rageful or disrespectful in your house and I would make her get at least a part time job, pay you rent, and do chores around the house...or I would not keep her at home. The stress can be lethal to us. Hugs to you and I hope you can find a peaceful way to emotionally detach from your daughter, whom you have no control over. The only person we can control is ourselves. Same with your daughter, mentally ill or not (I have mental health issues...bad ones...and keeping myself stable is my responsibility). Take care and good thoughts to you :) [/QUOTE]
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