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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 388208" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Have you been able to identify exactly why the principal wants you to volunteer? Is it because he wants parent volunteers (ie "we encourage all parents to be part of the school community in an active capacity") or does he want you there in difficult child 3's classroom to observe and perhaps assist, as a sort of unpaid (but expert) aide?</p><p></p><p>Some suggestions I have for you:</p><p></p><p>1) Show willing. Make it clear that you are very supportive of the school and parental involvement. It really does help in so many ways, when it comes to the school paying attention to you in other ways. </p><p></p><p>2) If you are concerned that your presence in your son's classroom will be a disruptive influence, then warn them. But try to keep your presence hidden as far as possible - I used to keep myself out of HGFG3's line of sight. He knew I was there, but if I stayed away from him and helped another student at the back of the class, it made a big difference. I also found the observation very useful; I felt my presence was disruptive so I said so to the teacher. He replied, "No, your presence actually made no difference. he is always like that." Which worried me greatly, and was one big reason for our choice to remove him from mainstream.</p><p></p><p>3) There are other ways to volunteer that definitely keep you out of your son's classroom, but still on the premises in very useful ways. I used to volunteer as a reading tutor, where I would take one student (or sometimes two or three) outside under a tree to sit and work on their reading. The teacher was very grateful for the intensive support. I also used to take a lunchtime class teaching chess to the kids. The school really valued this. It kept me out of difficult child 3's classroom but it also kept me exposed to the students who could then tell me 'secrets' about difficult child 3's behaviour, or even the teacher's behaviour towards him. That information was gold.</p><p></p><p>If you are a volunteer, especially if you are providing a valuable and irreplaceable service to the school, they are more likely to do the right thing by your child because they don't want to lose YOU. It's not right, it's not fair, but it does make a difference for your child.</p><p></p><p>Fundraising is a good one - I have a lot of ideas if you want me to pass them on to you.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 388208, member: 1991"] Have you been able to identify exactly why the principal wants you to volunteer? Is it because he wants parent volunteers (ie "we encourage all parents to be part of the school community in an active capacity") or does he want you there in difficult child 3's classroom to observe and perhaps assist, as a sort of unpaid (but expert) aide? Some suggestions I have for you: 1) Show willing. Make it clear that you are very supportive of the school and parental involvement. It really does help in so many ways, when it comes to the school paying attention to you in other ways. 2) If you are concerned that your presence in your son's classroom will be a disruptive influence, then warn them. But try to keep your presence hidden as far as possible - I used to keep myself out of HGFG3's line of sight. He knew I was there, but if I stayed away from him and helped another student at the back of the class, it made a big difference. I also found the observation very useful; I felt my presence was disruptive so I said so to the teacher. He replied, "No, your presence actually made no difference. he is always like that." Which worried me greatly, and was one big reason for our choice to remove him from mainstream. 3) There are other ways to volunteer that definitely keep you out of your son's classroom, but still on the premises in very useful ways. I used to volunteer as a reading tutor, where I would take one student (or sometimes two or three) outside under a tree to sit and work on their reading. The teacher was very grateful for the intensive support. I also used to take a lunchtime class teaching chess to the kids. The school really valued this. It kept me out of difficult child 3's classroom but it also kept me exposed to the students who could then tell me 'secrets' about difficult child 3's behaviour, or even the teacher's behaviour towards him. That information was gold. If you are a volunteer, especially if you are providing a valuable and irreplaceable service to the school, they are more likely to do the right thing by your child because they don't want to lose YOU. It's not right, it's not fair, but it does make a difference for your child. Fundraising is a good one - I have a lot of ideas if you want me to pass them on to you. Marg [/QUOTE]
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