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Does dealing with your difficult child make YOU feel manic?!?
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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 425311" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>I believe you are entitled to all those feelings and not a bit manic-your situation has hills and valleys that are just way bigger than those of an average family. While I have not had to deal with violence and threats, I have raised 2 kids with dxs that have required megamom skills. I basically raised my son alone as husband worked eveningsand a second job. I totally understand your feelings and never dared to say them out loud to anyone. My daughter has made me physically ill-I'm no spring chicken and nothing ever goes smooth with her. It has even caused us to avoid extended family so we don't have their support for respite.</p><p> </p><p>But, I do want to tell you that my daughter has been in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or <strong>out of home</strong> placement for assessment most of the last 2 years. I thought I would mend and have my old life back (things were good for several years when my boy mellowed and my daughter was young and well behaved). Not the case. Now I have to watch every move the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), DT, and others make. There is neglect, abuse and lack of follow through. I'm always at the therapists, going in for visits or tied to my home on weekends for her visits. While I do have peace that she is safe/alive and I dont have to deal with her disruption day in and day out, I feel as if I have to constantly assert my parental rights and advocate for her constantly. Big people in systems are just as hard to deal with as difficult children! I miss her-weird as it sounds. I still cry when I make certain foods she loves, or go places that we use to enjoy together. I wish things were different every day. I have asked the universe over and over, why my child, why me? </p><p>We just have to keep going and do the best we can and get support where we can. Please take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up-been there done that- and it only wears you out more. Take those other sweat peas of yours out and leave difficult child somewhere for a few hours and enjoy being a good mother and family. Hugs!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 425311, member: 11001"] I believe you are entitled to all those feelings and not a bit manic-your situation has hills and valleys that are just way bigger than those of an average family. While I have not had to deal with violence and threats, I have raised 2 kids with dxs that have required megamom skills. I basically raised my son alone as husband worked eveningsand a second job. I totally understand your feelings and never dared to say them out loud to anyone. My daughter has made me physically ill-I'm no spring chicken and nothing ever goes smooth with her. It has even caused us to avoid extended family so we don't have their support for respite. But, I do want to tell you that my daughter has been in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or [B]out of home[/B] placement for assessment most of the last 2 years. I thought I would mend and have my old life back (things were good for several years when my boy mellowed and my daughter was young and well behaved). Not the case. Now I have to watch every move the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), DT, and others make. There is neglect, abuse and lack of follow through. I'm always at the therapists, going in for visits or tied to my home on weekends for her visits. While I do have peace that she is safe/alive and I dont have to deal with her disruption day in and day out, I feel as if I have to constantly assert my parental rights and advocate for her constantly. Big people in systems are just as hard to deal with as difficult children! I miss her-weird as it sounds. I still cry when I make certain foods she loves, or go places that we use to enjoy together. I wish things were different every day. I have asked the universe over and over, why my child, why me? We just have to keep going and do the best we can and get support where we can. Please take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up-been there done that- and it only wears you out more. Take those other sweat peas of yours out and leave difficult child somewhere for a few hours and enjoy being a good mother and family. Hugs!!! [/QUOTE]
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