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Does this pain ever end? i an overwhelmed.
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 452390"><p>First of all, I am so sorry. I understand that this pain is very strong and very deep. I've been through something very similar as have many/most here.</p><p>Detachment is the only way out. It is vital for you and it is even good for your son.</p><p>Here is something to read that might help: <a href="http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/" target="_blank">http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/</a></p><p>I agree with the others....get yourself to an Al Anon or a Family Anonymous meeting as soon as possible. There you will get the support you need to keep you strong.</p><p>If you are able, also see if you can get a therapist/counselor to help you through this pain.</p><p>You are right, your son should NOT be in your home. He is breaking the law, hurting you and hurting himself.</p><p>YOu can continue to offer him counseling, and probably should continue to make this offer, but you are right, he probably will continue to refuse. If drugs are a major problem, you might want to consider if you can issue a Marchment Act...which will legally force him to get to treatment. If you know an attorney, you might ask. Or you can go to a local police station and see if someone there can talk to you about this type of thing. </p><p>In the mean time, read what you can about detachment and please push yourself to get to a meeting of Al Anon or Families Anonymous as soon as possible. Put MUCH MUCH MUCH more emphasis on YOU and your health than his. He is over 18, etc.</p><p>In time, as you detach, the pain will improve. As others have said, you will refocus on your life, things you enjoy, good people and friends and you will find the joy that is out there in this world for you to have.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 452390"] First of all, I am so sorry. I understand that this pain is very strong and very deep. I've been through something very similar as have many/most here. Detachment is the only way out. It is vital for you and it is even good for your son. Here is something to read that might help: [URL]http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/[/URL] I agree with the others....get yourself to an Al Anon or a Family Anonymous meeting as soon as possible. There you will get the support you need to keep you strong. If you are able, also see if you can get a therapist/counselor to help you through this pain. You are right, your son should NOT be in your home. He is breaking the law, hurting you and hurting himself. YOu can continue to offer him counseling, and probably should continue to make this offer, but you are right, he probably will continue to refuse. If drugs are a major problem, you might want to consider if you can issue a Marchment Act...which will legally force him to get to treatment. If you know an attorney, you might ask. Or you can go to a local police station and see if someone there can talk to you about this type of thing. In the mean time, read what you can about detachment and please push yourself to get to a meeting of Al Anon or Families Anonymous as soon as possible. Put MUCH MUCH MUCH more emphasis on YOU and your health than his. He is over 18, etc. In time, as you detach, the pain will improve. As others have said, you will refocus on your life, things you enjoy, good people and friends and you will find the joy that is out there in this world for you to have. [/QUOTE]
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