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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 752516" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I want to clarify one thing.</p><p></p><p>Sexual orientation is NOT a behavior problem and in spite of my religious beliefs I think the church misinterpreted being gay. This does not bother me at all and I think your ex's reaction, JP was shameful </p><p>.</p><p>Gay or straight I don't want any S&M sexual items under my roof. THAT would make me feel creepy in my own house and it's my house. Period. What he does outside of my house is his business. I don't ask my grown kids about their sex lives.This poster has a right to be comfortable in her home. Her boundaries are up to her. She may be okay with this in her home. </p><p></p><p>I get to choose what I accept in my home. All of us do.</p><p></p><p>Being a regular young man who happens to be gay is in my opinion normal (and I take flack from certain church friends but I don't care). S&M is not in my opinion and that stuff would have been thrown out. This kid would either go to therapy or leave even if I felt I had to pay for him to stay elsewhere. .</p><p></p><p>It is not just the S&M either. The poor hygiene, chaotic bedroom, smearing boogers on the desk at his age, not working, lying etc. are very serious issues too. It doesn't serve him to just let him deteriorate with no attempt to get him to get help. If he wanted to lounge around all day it would not be in my home. And I'm sure some parents are okay with this. There is no right answers, just feelings.</p><p> </p><p>Now we bought our daughter a house to give her a place to stay without living with us. We found her other shelter after she lost the house and paid for years. It hurt her and us, but at least she didn't live here. She crossed too many boundaries to live with us.</p><p></p><p>Just wanted to explain. The S&M stuff in my opinion is a different issue from sexual orientation. A tinge of violence there. in my opinion scary.</p><p></p><p>God bless.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 752516, member: 23706"] I want to clarify one thing. Sexual orientation is NOT a behavior problem and in spite of my religious beliefs I think the church misinterpreted being gay. This does not bother me at all and I think your ex's reaction, JP was shameful . Gay or straight I don't want any S&M sexual items under my roof. THAT would make me feel creepy in my own house and it's my house. Period. What he does outside of my house is his business. I don't ask my grown kids about their sex lives.This poster has a right to be comfortable in her home. Her boundaries are up to her. She may be okay with this in her home. I get to choose what I accept in my home. All of us do. Being a regular young man who happens to be gay is in my opinion normal (and I take flack from certain church friends but I don't care). S&M is not in my opinion and that stuff would have been thrown out. This kid would either go to therapy or leave even if I felt I had to pay for him to stay elsewhere. . It is not just the S&M either. The poor hygiene, chaotic bedroom, smearing boogers on the desk at his age, not working, lying etc. are very serious issues too. It doesn't serve him to just let him deteriorate with no attempt to get him to get help. If he wanted to lounge around all day it would not be in my home. And I'm sure some parents are okay with this. There is no right answers, just feelings. Now we bought our daughter a house to give her a place to stay without living with us. We found her other shelter after she lost the house and paid for years. It hurt her and us, but at least she didn't live here. She crossed too many boundaries to live with us. Just wanted to explain. The S&M stuff in my opinion is a different issue from sexual orientation. A tinge of violence there. in my opinion scary. God bless. [/QUOTE]
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