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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 752518" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Welcome. </p><p></p><p>You have come to the right place where you can journal and get other's advice and opinions. As one poster said, take what you need and leave the rest. However it does give you some thoughts from many parents that have been through a LOT with their adult children and have nothing but love and compassion for all.</p><p></p><p>I think you have already gotten great advice and I agree that it sounds like something is not quite right with your son and I think you feel it too or you would not be here. He sounds very lonely and could be depressed. No one would want to live like that if you ask me.</p><p></p><p>My son was using drugs (pills) when he behaved that way - holed in room, not cleaning himself or his room - but that does not mean this is the case with your son. My son is doing much better but still can be a bit lazy with that. Some guys are. Nothing else that you mentioned though thankfully.</p><p></p><p>I agree that you should have an open and honest discussion with your son about what you think, feel and found. Many say that there can be no privacy if they are living in OUR homes and I think that is right but ONLY if we feel something is not right - as you do. If they are working and doing normal things, I would not invade privacy. </p><p></p><p>I also agree that if you live in my house you bathe regularly and practice good personal hygiene and your room is kept clean. I am very anal about my house and I will not allow it. I think you have to create some firm boundaries with your son because I do believe boundaries/rules will help him. I also would insist that something is done to get him moved out of this rut. I do think a therapist even if just for you to sort this all out would be helpful. </p><p></p><p>At least you'd feel like you're doing something. I always NEEDED that.</p><p></p><p>I also would pray a lot because I sure did for my son and it did work for him and it helped me tremendously.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 752518, member: 15032"] Welcome. You have come to the right place where you can journal and get other's advice and opinions. As one poster said, take what you need and leave the rest. However it does give you some thoughts from many parents that have been through a LOT with their adult children and have nothing but love and compassion for all. I think you have already gotten great advice and I agree that it sounds like something is not quite right with your son and I think you feel it too or you would not be here. He sounds very lonely and could be depressed. No one would want to live like that if you ask me. My son was using drugs (pills) when he behaved that way - holed in room, not cleaning himself or his room - but that does not mean this is the case with your son. My son is doing much better but still can be a bit lazy with that. Some guys are. Nothing else that you mentioned though thankfully. I agree that you should have an open and honest discussion with your son about what you think, feel and found. Many say that there can be no privacy if they are living in OUR homes and I think that is right but ONLY if we feel something is not right - as you do. If they are working and doing normal things, I would not invade privacy. I also agree that if you live in my house you bathe regularly and practice good personal hygiene and your room is kept clean. I am very anal about my house and I will not allow it. I think you have to create some firm boundaries with your son because I do believe boundaries/rules will help him. I also would insist that something is done to get him moved out of this rut. I do think a therapist even if just for you to sort this all out would be helpful. At least you'd feel like you're doing something. I always NEEDED that. I also would pray a lot because I sure did for my son and it did work for him and it helped me tremendously. [/QUOTE]
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