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<blockquote data-quote="gottaloveem" data-source="post: 131084" data-attributes="member: 1953"><p>Hi so tired. I also am from Michigan. Sorry that things at home aren't good. Hopefully your husband will get sick of the way things are going so he can get tough. Yep, the "talks" you mentioned are pointless. Now is the time to take action. You can start with if he has a car take it away, don't give him money, don't give him rides, don't do his laundry. Just provide him with a roof over his head and food, and let him figure out the rest. Being 18 tough love is about the only thing you can do for him until he decides he wants to change. Is he currently working? If not, how is he getting money?</p><p></p><p>And yes you are right, we do lose our kids(maybe just temporarily) when they start abusing drugs. I don't know if you read my signature, but we lost our oldest son to a heroin overdose almost two years ago. We had no idea he had turned to "hard drugs". But I do feel that I lost my son to drugs before we lost him forever.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /> Do you know what kind of drugs he is on? If you are in the Detroit Metropolitan area, you should know that heroin is around, especially in Wayne county, Livonia had between 20-30 deaths due to heroin in 2006. I don't want to scare you, but you should know, I had no idea kids were using heroin. I wish I knew. Not sure if it would've changed things though.</p><p></p><p>Just remember your easy child in all of this she really needs you. I belong to a support group for parents who have lost a child to substance abuse. We all agree that during the bad years, we practically ignored our other children while the one using (and not wanting our attention) got all of it. You say she is the light of your life, smother her in love and attention and enjoy her,then you can still enjoy being a parent, it's hard to enjoy your son right now.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to CD.com. I hope you can find the support and advice you need and are looking for.</p><p></p><p>Lia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gottaloveem, post: 131084, member: 1953"] Hi so tired. I also am from Michigan. Sorry that things at home aren't good. Hopefully your husband will get sick of the way things are going so he can get tough. Yep, the "talks" you mentioned are pointless. Now is the time to take action. You can start with if he has a car take it away, don't give him money, don't give him rides, don't do his laundry. Just provide him with a roof over his head and food, and let him figure out the rest. Being 18 tough love is about the only thing you can do for him until he decides he wants to change. Is he currently working? If not, how is he getting money? And yes you are right, we do lose our kids(maybe just temporarily) when they start abusing drugs. I don't know if you read my signature, but we lost our oldest son to a heroin overdose almost two years ago. We had no idea he had turned to "hard drugs". But I do feel that I lost my son to drugs before we lost him forever.:2sad: Do you know what kind of drugs he is on? If you are in the Detroit Metropolitan area, you should know that heroin is around, especially in Wayne county, Livonia had between 20-30 deaths due to heroin in 2006. I don't want to scare you, but you should know, I had no idea kids were using heroin. I wish I knew. Not sure if it would've changed things though. Just remember your easy child in all of this she really needs you. I belong to a support group for parents who have lost a child to substance abuse. We all agree that during the bad years, we practically ignored our other children while the one using (and not wanting our attention) got all of it. You say she is the light of your life, smother her in love and attention and enjoy her,then you can still enjoy being a parent, it's hard to enjoy your son right now. Welcome to CD.com. I hope you can find the support and advice you need and are looking for. Lia [/QUOTE]
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