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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 325436" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Terry, I think it's very worrying that your difficult child is threatening you with violence, even idly, when he doesn't get his way or when he gets caught doing something he's not supposed to do. The older, bigger and physically stronger he gets, the more this represents a danger for you.</p><p></p><p>I agree with Klmno that you need to change the dynamic between you and your difficult child soon, before you get hurt. Your safety is a priority.</p><p></p><p>I've always noticed strong parallels between your difficult child and mine, with mine a few years further down the path. A few years ago, my difficult child got into a habit of getting physical with me when he didn't get his way. Please note that I am emphatically NOT recommending the course of action I took, just letting you know how things unfolded. This could have gone wrong in so many ways...</p><p></p><p>At the time, although difficult child was much taller than me he was very underweight and was about the same weight as I am. If I was disciplining him or telling something he didn't want to hear, he'd get physical, for example:</p><p>- stepping into my personal space and backing me into a corner</p><p>- hitting the wall near my head</p><p>- trying to grab my arms or hands to prevent me from moving</p><p>- sticking his foot in the door to prevent me from shutting it on him, etc.</p><p></p><p>One day when he was thumping the wall next to my head and in danger of planting a fist in my face, I just hoisted him off his feet, carried him to his room and dropped him on his bed. (I worked as a house painter when I was in university, and used the same technique I used to use when moving extension ladders to lift difficult child). He was shocked. Another time, after he hit me and tried to do a runner when we were out, I hooked the backs of his knees with my leg to floor him, and then dragged him across the floor by the back of his coat. Not proud of either action, but difficult child never got physical with me again. To this day, even though he now outweighs me by 70 or 80 lbs, he perceives me as stronger than he is. If I hadn't bested him, he would have escalated the physical confrontation and one or both of us would have gotten seriously hurt.</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child has already caused you a wrist injury. I get the feeling that he's already too big and strong to be reined in by a display of might. You need to find a way to protect yourself...</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 325436, member: 3907"] Terry, I think it's very worrying that your difficult child is threatening you with violence, even idly, when he doesn't get his way or when he gets caught doing something he's not supposed to do. The older, bigger and physically stronger he gets, the more this represents a danger for you. I agree with Klmno that you need to change the dynamic between you and your difficult child soon, before you get hurt. Your safety is a priority. I've always noticed strong parallels between your difficult child and mine, with mine a few years further down the path. A few years ago, my difficult child got into a habit of getting physical with me when he didn't get his way. Please note that I am emphatically NOT recommending the course of action I took, just letting you know how things unfolded. This could have gone wrong in so many ways... At the time, although difficult child was much taller than me he was very underweight and was about the same weight as I am. If I was disciplining him or telling something he didn't want to hear, he'd get physical, for example: - stepping into my personal space and backing me into a corner - hitting the wall near my head - trying to grab my arms or hands to prevent me from moving - sticking his foot in the door to prevent me from shutting it on him, etc. One day when he was thumping the wall next to my head and in danger of planting a fist in my face, I just hoisted him off his feet, carried him to his room and dropped him on his bed. (I worked as a house painter when I was in university, and used the same technique I used to use when moving extension ladders to lift difficult child). He was shocked. Another time, after he hit me and tried to do a runner when we were out, I hooked the backs of his knees with my leg to floor him, and then dragged him across the floor by the back of his coat. Not proud of either action, but difficult child never got physical with me again. To this day, even though he now outweighs me by 70 or 80 lbs, he perceives me as stronger than he is. If I hadn't bested him, he would have escalated the physical confrontation and one or both of us would have gotten seriously hurt. Your difficult child has already caused you a wrist injury. I get the feeling that he's already too big and strong to be reined in by a display of might. You need to find a way to protect yourself... Trinity Trinity [/QUOTE]
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