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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 325666" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Oh gosh- Terry, the computer I was referring to is my computer as well and the only one we had in the house except the one difficult child was issued during the school year. My feeling was that his issued computer should do him with some special exceptions when I'd let him use mine for a priviledge. My plan was to work some from home so he would be supervised in after school hours because he was too old for daycare and refused any program for after school. So, the office where I worked put software on my home computer to allow me to do this and I had made a home office out of the smallest bedroom. Mind you- all this was done because difficult child refused any after school program or day care once he turned 11 yo.</p><p></p><p>But, he wouldn't leave the computer alone- he bypassed the password, got on porn, which lead to the computer getting a virus, and took the hinges off the door after busting door trim to bypass the lock I'd put on the door. I was able to get around the password problem but it leaves the computer unable to have a password now. I had to take the computer to a specialist to completely "cleanse" it, causing me to lose all the software my office had put on it. I could use that software now to "sub" out some work from home if I had it. It would cost between $5000 and $6000 for me to buy it individually. The door and trim are ruined. He broke one monitor because he decided that if he couldn't have the computer, I couldn't either. I couldn't work at home at all after the jduge ordered the computer out of the house for about 2 months- costing me those hours from work in pay. This stuff transpired over the course of about 2 years. And in the end- I simply cannot keep difficult child off the computer when he is determined to "over-ride" the rules. I finally decided that dealing with his refusal to comply with the rules or defy them (as in why and what can we do about it) would have a better chance of being effective because until that was dealt with, outsmarting him was not getting us anywhere- it just made him more determined and kept moving things to a higher level of destruction.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 325666, member: 3699"] Oh gosh- Terry, the computer I was referring to is my computer as well and the only one we had in the house except the one difficult child was issued during the school year. My feeling was that his issued computer should do him with some special exceptions when I'd let him use mine for a priviledge. My plan was to work some from home so he would be supervised in after school hours because he was too old for daycare and refused any program for after school. So, the office where I worked put software on my home computer to allow me to do this and I had made a home office out of the smallest bedroom. Mind you- all this was done because difficult child refused any after school program or day care once he turned 11 yo. But, he wouldn't leave the computer alone- he bypassed the password, got on porn, which lead to the computer getting a virus, and took the hinges off the door after busting door trim to bypass the lock I'd put on the door. I was able to get around the password problem but it leaves the computer unable to have a password now. I had to take the computer to a specialist to completely "cleanse" it, causing me to lose all the software my office had put on it. I could use that software now to "sub" out some work from home if I had it. It would cost between $5000 and $6000 for me to buy it individually. The door and trim are ruined. He broke one monitor because he decided that if he couldn't have the computer, I couldn't either. I couldn't work at home at all after the jduge ordered the computer out of the house for about 2 months- costing me those hours from work in pay. This stuff transpired over the course of about 2 years. And in the end- I simply cannot keep difficult child off the computer when he is determined to "over-ride" the rules. I finally decided that dealing with his refusal to comply with the rules or defy them (as in why and what can we do about it) would have a better chance of being effective because until that was dealt with, outsmarting him was not getting us anywhere- it just made him more determined and kept moving things to a higher level of destruction. [/QUOTE]
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