I have setup an iep and 504 and i see the school psycologist once a month and school counselor for stundent support meeting . he has been diagnosis with adhd and he has a appointment coming up with a behavior speacialist next week.his psy doctor say that after his visit with the behavior speacialist gives him and evaulation she is going to refer me to a neurologist for a full evaulation . i live at the school and my main focus is him! have no life . no i didn't have any promblems as a child and no substance abuse i was brought up in a single home it was just me my sister and brothers and my mom worked and never drinked or smoked she was a great role model and is my backbone . As for my son's father (not my husband) he never had those issues in his home we both had a good life and even though my mom and dad divorced when i was 3 years old i have a good relationship with both of my parents. i have tried to be calm and understanding but he is 11 years old some of the things he does my 1 year old know better than doing . i am just frusterated and upset at this whole situation right now i am used to being able to handle any promblems and solve them and this one is unsolvable . i need a lot of support and no judgement right now i have read the information on this site and other sites and read so many books i can't count ! i just wake up everyday and say what is next and pray it doesn't send me to the edge . the my son had the nerve to raise his hand to me i had to pray hard i mean i really was about to loose it if he hadda hit me he will be in the hospital and i would be in jail for breaking his arm thankyou once again for reading my post and for the advice god bless.