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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 511727" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>First of all, ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) This seems like a truly difficult, awful position to be in. </p><p></p><p>I know losing the cats will be a huge blow, but their welfare really has to become a priority. I don't know where you live, but in many areas Animal Control could cause real problems for YOU if those cats are in a car on your property. yes, not your car, but on your property they are your responsibility. A week or two is very different than over a month, and you can't allow them to sit in a car with no room to move or exercise or fresh air for such a long period of time. It is cruel and inhumane to them. </p><p></p><p>I don't know what will help your daughter. I realize she needs help, but if she won't allow an evaluation, and she truly is unable to manage her life, then giving her a place to live isn't going to help. I totally understand the strained relationship, esp as I have one with my mother. Sadly, what she wants and what she is able to handle are diffeerent. If you are going to step up and be financially involved/responsible, this is probably NOT going to be a short term thing. You will need to take steps to protect yourself from financial liability and maybe you should have her labelled a vulnerable adult and the courts could force the evaluation and maybe help get some treatment. Difficult to love or not, you do need to keep her separate from your granddau. Granddau is a minor and deserves to be protected from her, which you have done even though it has been hard. That is a huge gift to granddau AND to your daughter. </p><p></p><p>Please get someone to keep watch on the house (neighbor? alarm co? friend? relative? hire someone??) and take your vacation. You NEED the time to destress. Is she on parole or probation and could you get the judge to order the MH evaluation? That could lead to services and help for her? Unless gettng help is part of the deal, I owuld probably say to let her work it out because with-o MH help there is little chance things will improve for her. I know this is terribly hard and I don't have the answers toher than to maybe say that Animal Control says the cats have to go to the shelter or to a suitable home. in my opinion it is very very cruel to keep them in the car - not healthy and could lead to big fines for you, which is bad. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry. I wish I had answers. I can offer more hugs though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 511727, member: 1233"] First of all, ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) This seems like a truly difficult, awful position to be in. I know losing the cats will be a huge blow, but their welfare really has to become a priority. I don't know where you live, but in many areas Animal Control could cause real problems for YOU if those cats are in a car on your property. yes, not your car, but on your property they are your responsibility. A week or two is very different than over a month, and you can't allow them to sit in a car with no room to move or exercise or fresh air for such a long period of time. It is cruel and inhumane to them. I don't know what will help your daughter. I realize she needs help, but if she won't allow an evaluation, and she truly is unable to manage her life, then giving her a place to live isn't going to help. I totally understand the strained relationship, esp as I have one with my mother. Sadly, what she wants and what she is able to handle are diffeerent. If you are going to step up and be financially involved/responsible, this is probably NOT going to be a short term thing. You will need to take steps to protect yourself from financial liability and maybe you should have her labelled a vulnerable adult and the courts could force the evaluation and maybe help get some treatment. Difficult to love or not, you do need to keep her separate from your granddau. Granddau is a minor and deserves to be protected from her, which you have done even though it has been hard. That is a huge gift to granddau AND to your daughter. Please get someone to keep watch on the house (neighbor? alarm co? friend? relative? hire someone??) and take your vacation. You NEED the time to destress. Is she on parole or probation and could you get the judge to order the MH evaluation? That could lead to services and help for her? Unless gettng help is part of the deal, I owuld probably say to let her work it out because with-o MH help there is little chance things will improve for her. I know this is terribly hard and I don't have the answers toher than to maybe say that Animal Control says the cats have to go to the shelter or to a suitable home. in my opinion it is very very cruel to keep them in the car - not healthy and could lead to big fines for you, which is bad. I am so sorry. I wish I had answers. I can offer more hugs though. [/QUOTE]
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