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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 512223" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>First and foremost I am sending sincere caring supportive thoughts and hugs your way. I completely understand the complexities of raising grandchildren with a dysfunctional parent. I made the best choices over the years and there was no "happily ever after" result. Obviously I do not have "the" answer.</p><p></p><p>I am not a cat person. A disproportionate number of female adults with disabilities seem to find great comfort in owning cats...and very often a large number of cats. I know GFGmom has always had cats even though her oldest born is allergic to them. Sigh! </p><p></p><p>What would I do? I'm not sure but I do think I would have someone else (not you or gd) call and report the cats to authorities for their protection and in hopes that their removal might change your daughter's focus. on the other hand, frankly, if she is traveling such a fine line emotionally it could have negative results as well. I'd take a chance and make sure that I could honestly respond when asked that I did not call authorities. Another factor is that I really doubt she would be accepted into a rental facility with multiple pets. At least not a decent one.</p><p></p><p>Regarding the vacation there is no doubt that you need to follow up with your plans and get a relaxing break for you and gd. Protecting your home? The only idea I have to add is the possibility of having a house sitter during your absence. That would take care of the possible problems but I have no idea if that type of service is available where you live.</p><p></p><p>The money aspect is also a quandry. Is there any chance that she would agree to see a Doctor in order to get a safe temporary place to stay? For some the "carrot and the stick" works. Don't know about her.</p><p></p><p>Sure wish I had brilliant advice but this is my best offering. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 512223, member: 35"] First and foremost I am sending sincere caring supportive thoughts and hugs your way. I completely understand the complexities of raising grandchildren with a dysfunctional parent. I made the best choices over the years and there was no "happily ever after" result. Obviously I do not have "the" answer. I am not a cat person. A disproportionate number of female adults with disabilities seem to find great comfort in owning cats...and very often a large number of cats. I know GFGmom has always had cats even though her oldest born is allergic to them. Sigh! What would I do? I'm not sure but I do think I would have someone else (not you or gd) call and report the cats to authorities for their protection and in hopes that their removal might change your daughter's focus. on the other hand, frankly, if she is traveling such a fine line emotionally it could have negative results as well. I'd take a chance and make sure that I could honestly respond when asked that I did not call authorities. Another factor is that I really doubt she would be accepted into a rental facility with multiple pets. At least not a decent one. Regarding the vacation there is no doubt that you need to follow up with your plans and get a relaxing break for you and gd. Protecting your home? The only idea I have to add is the possibility of having a house sitter during your absence. That would take care of the possible problems but I have no idea if that type of service is available where you live. The money aspect is also a quandry. Is there any chance that she would agree to see a Doctor in order to get a safe temporary place to stay? For some the "carrot and the stick" works. Don't know about her. Sure wish I had brilliant advice but this is my best offering. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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