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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 302288" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>husband is a very unhappy camper tonight. I was online with my oldest who is buying a cellphone plan for himself and his brothers. husband doesn't have a cell phone because difficult child has thrown away four or five of them was visibly jealous (he's also unhappy because difficult child threw his laptop in the pool and then did something in regedit that ruined his desktop) and kept mumbling about if I was buying them a cell phone. I said no, then said no again firmly when he kept mumbling. He's sulking. </p><p> </p><p>A bit later when the kids weren't around I explained oldest son was buying for himself and his brothers on the extra $10 a phone plan. And the brothers were going to reimburse my eldest. husband said, "I don't know why there has to be so much secrecy."</p><p> </p><p>I pointed out he was secretive. He asked what he was secretive about. I said about difficult child and pointed out he didn't want to tell me what happened with the court ordered competency therapist or really what happened with the PubDef today.</p><p> </p><p>He said not much happened. They waited around and wasted 3 hours. PubDef asked him what happend, then asked difficult child what happened. difficult child said someone in the house planted the drugs on him. husband said he called difficult child a liar. Then the PubDef gave husband a lecture about how he had to support his son. husband said to me, "Another one who has an opinion when she doesn't know what's going on." Then the PubDef took difficult child into another room for about 20 minutes and talked to him privately. She doesn't have any idea what the judge might do or how this might turn out.</p><p> </p><p>He said the court ordered competency therapist last week barely talked to him at all and spent 95&#37; of the time with difficult child. The therapist said difficult child was not really competent to stand trial. husband said it hurts to hear that. I said, "Well, it's because he's 12, no 12 year old is really competent to lead their own legal defense." Yeah, well, mumble, mumble. </p><p> </p><p>A bit later while I was loading the dishwasher husband brought up my going to court. He pointed out not much would really happen, so it wasn't worth it to me to take off of work and go. I said I already took off of work. "So you are going." "Yes of course." He said I didn't have to, it makes him uncomfortable and was a waste of my time and I should just let him handle it.</p><p> </p><p>I said I wasn't going to say anything, just be a spectator and of course he could be the one to handle it. He said he didn't want me to go. I said oh and kept working on the dishes and cheerfully changed the subject to the washing machine which he was fixing a minute ago. He said it stressed him out to have me there, why did I want to go? I said because I want to know what happened, and why didn't he want me there. He said he doesn't feel that I'm on his side or on difficult child's side. I said I am not on the side of lying, and I'm certainly not on the side of saying me or the boys planted the pills on difficult child. </p><p> </p><p>"What are you going to do? Talk to the prosecutor?" Nope. I was going to be a spectator. If it made him feel better, I wouldn't sit with him. husband started complaining: Didn't I trust him, why wouldn't I let him handle it, so I was going to just push myself in where I wasn't wanted, wasn't that just like me. </p><p> </p><p>So then husband took a handful of my change (which I told him yesterday he could do) and went out. I guess he's sitting at the bar. He didn't actually take enough for the bar, maybe he went to get cigarettes and then went to see what's going on at boy scouts. He was supposed to be there tonight but just dropped off son15 and said he was going back later. </p><p> </p><p>I'm going to be at court. I think husband doesn't want me there so he can lie for difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 302288, member: 5169"] husband is a very unhappy camper tonight. I was online with my oldest who is buying a cellphone plan for himself and his brothers. husband doesn't have a cell phone because difficult child has thrown away four or five of them was visibly jealous (he's also unhappy because difficult child threw his laptop in the pool and then did something in regedit that ruined his desktop) and kept mumbling about if I was buying them a cell phone. I said no, then said no again firmly when he kept mumbling. He's sulking. A bit later when the kids weren't around I explained oldest son was buying for himself and his brothers on the extra $10 a phone plan. And the brothers were going to reimburse my eldest. husband said, "I don't know why there has to be so much secrecy." I pointed out he was secretive. He asked what he was secretive about. I said about difficult child and pointed out he didn't want to tell me what happened with the court ordered competency therapist or really what happened with the PubDef today. He said not much happened. They waited around and wasted 3 hours. PubDef asked him what happend, then asked difficult child what happened. difficult child said someone in the house planted the drugs on him. husband said he called difficult child a liar. Then the PubDef gave husband a lecture about how he had to support his son. husband said to me, "Another one who has an opinion when she doesn't know what's going on." Then the PubDef took difficult child into another room for about 20 minutes and talked to him privately. She doesn't have any idea what the judge might do or how this might turn out. He said the court ordered competency therapist last week barely talked to him at all and spent 95% of the time with difficult child. The therapist said difficult child was not really competent to stand trial. husband said it hurts to hear that. I said, "Well, it's because he's 12, no 12 year old is really competent to lead their own legal defense." Yeah, well, mumble, mumble. A bit later while I was loading the dishwasher husband brought up my going to court. He pointed out not much would really happen, so it wasn't worth it to me to take off of work and go. I said I already took off of work. "So you are going." "Yes of course." He said I didn't have to, it makes him uncomfortable and was a waste of my time and I should just let him handle it. I said I wasn't going to say anything, just be a spectator and of course he could be the one to handle it. He said he didn't want me to go. I said oh and kept working on the dishes and cheerfully changed the subject to the washing machine which he was fixing a minute ago. He said it stressed him out to have me there, why did I want to go? I said because I want to know what happened, and why didn't he want me there. He said he doesn't feel that I'm on his side or on difficult child's side. I said I am not on the side of lying, and I'm certainly not on the side of saying me or the boys planted the pills on difficult child. "What are you going to do? Talk to the prosecutor?" Nope. I was going to be a spectator. If it made him feel better, I wouldn't sit with him. husband started complaining: Didn't I trust him, why wouldn't I let him handle it, so I was going to just push myself in where I wasn't wanted, wasn't that just like me. So then husband took a handful of my change (which I told him yesterday he could do) and went out. I guess he's sitting at the bar. He didn't actually take enough for the bar, maybe he went to get cigarettes and then went to see what's going on at boy scouts. He was supposed to be there tonight but just dropped off son15 and said he was going back later. I'm going to be at court. I think husband doesn't want me there so he can lie for difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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