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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 302809" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I doubt they will give Residential Treatment Center (RTC) without the in home counseling first. I tried for that and it didn't work- it isn't policy in most areas and now it's worse with the the lack of funding, as you noted. It makes no sense, but that's the way it is in most places. No, they won't make you move out. They probably will push husband to though as soon as they figure out that the marriage isn't going to last and you are not making every effort to keep the whole family together, including difficult child, and willing to do whatever they say to meet that goal. (I''m not saying you should, just that you are not.) </p><p></p><p>My guess is that if difficult child has actually been convicted in court a few times before and found guilty, they will give him a longer term detention. But, if he's never had detention time or probation time or in home therapy, they are probably going to order probation with the therapy, even if they include some short term detention first. husband will not be able to jsut send difficult child somewhere without going back to court if that is ordered. If he's only on probation, he might be able to but it's not that simple if the goal is family therapy. This is why I can see your husband feeling like he has to choose between you and his son. If you aren't going to be around anyway, it might be a good idea to let him know that before the court date-unless you are just trying to make sure he's left without you, a place to live, and not being able to keep custody of his son.</p><p></p><p>I'm just trying to help so I hope I'm not making you feel worse. You do need to know though that the court will be looking for a way to keep (or eventually return) difficult child to his father and family involvement will probably be required.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 302809, member: 3699"] I doubt they will give Residential Treatment Center (RTC) without the in home counseling first. I tried for that and it didn't work- it isn't policy in most areas and now it's worse with the the lack of funding, as you noted. It makes no sense, but that's the way it is in most places. No, they won't make you move out. They probably will push husband to though as soon as they figure out that the marriage isn't going to last and you are not making every effort to keep the whole family together, including difficult child, and willing to do whatever they say to meet that goal. (I''m not saying you should, just that you are not.) My guess is that if difficult child has actually been convicted in court a few times before and found guilty, they will give him a longer term detention. But, if he's never had detention time or probation time or in home therapy, they are probably going to order probation with the therapy, even if they include some short term detention first. husband will not be able to jsut send difficult child somewhere without going back to court if that is ordered. If he's only on probation, he might be able to but it's not that simple if the goal is family therapy. This is why I can see your husband feeling like he has to choose between you and his son. If you aren't going to be around anyway, it might be a good idea to let him know that before the court date-unless you are just trying to make sure he's left without you, a place to live, and not being able to keep custody of his son. I'm just trying to help so I hope I'm not making you feel worse. You do need to know though that the court will be looking for a way to keep (or eventually return) difficult child to his father and family involvement will probably be required. [/QUOTE]
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