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Welcome to our little corner of the world kris. I have a 37 year old son with mental illness and drugs. He is currently in jail for non payment of child support. I also have 2 successful sons both younger. It is hard to worry about our troubled kids on the holidays and exclude them from family activities. My 2 younger will not come if older does of course this year that was not a problem. Each of us here deals with our troubled adults at there own pace . you have been given excellent advice by those who have already replied. Our loved ones have chosen a rough path and they need to figure out how to change that. We have all made extreme sacrifices to try and help but have reached the point where we realized it can't go on for either us or them. We have to take our lives back which often means reconnecting with others in our families and knowing that it is ok. When our troubled adults decide to put their lives in order we can offer prayers and words of encouragement but still hold on to our own lives and our own mental health. We all slip up on occasion and thats ok too. we have to do what we feel is right and what gives us peace. It does get a little easier as time goes on and we let go of guilt as far as what we can do and what we should or shouldn't do. Please stay with us.

<blockquote data-quote="Triedntrue" data-source="post: 753982" data-attributes="member: 21499"><p>Welcome to our little corner of the world kris. I have a 37 year old son with mental illness and drugs. He is currently in jail for non payment of child support. I also have 2 successful sons both younger. It is hard to worry about our troubled kids on the holidays and exclude them from family activities. My 2 younger will not come if older does of course this year that was not a problem.&nbsp; Each of us here deals with our troubled adults at there own pace . you have been given excellent advice by those who have already replied. Our loved ones have chosen a rough path and they need to figure out how to change that. We have all made extreme sacrifices to try and help but have reached the point where we realized it can't go on for either us or them. We have to take our lives back which often means reconnecting with others in our families and knowing that it is ok. When our troubled adults decide to put their lives in order we can offer prayers and words of encouragement but still hold on to our own lives and our own mental health. We all slip up on occasion and thats ok too. we have to do what we feel is right and what gives us peace. It does get a little easier as time goes on and we let go of guilt as far as what we can do and what we should or shouldn't do. Please stay with us.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Triedntrue, post: 753982, member: 21499"] Welcome to our little corner of the world kris. I have a 37 year old son with mental illness and drugs. He is currently in jail for non payment of child support. I also have 2 successful sons both younger. It is hard to worry about our troubled kids on the holidays and exclude them from family activities. My 2 younger will not come if older does of course this year that was not a problem. Each of us here deals with our troubled adults at there own pace . you have been given excellent advice by those who have already replied. Our loved ones have chosen a rough path and they need to figure out how to change that. We have all made extreme sacrifices to try and help but have reached the point where we realized it can't go on for either us or them. We have to take our lives back which often means reconnecting with others in our families and knowing that it is ok. When our troubled adults decide to put their lives in order we can offer prayers and words of encouragement but still hold on to our own lives and our own mental health. We all slip up on occasion and thats ok too. we have to do what we feel is right and what gives us peace. It does get a little easier as time goes on and we let go of guilt as far as what we can do and what we should or shouldn't do. Please stay with us. [/QUOTE]

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