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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 698727" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>I'm going to say that it depends. For us it was better to cut off any type of visitation. It wasn't helping the oldest (he is the only 1 that really remembers her) and it was so infrequent due to her drug use, and her behavior was too erratic seeing her upset him more than it did any good.</p><p></p><p>This is why I have suggested counseling. My oldest still sees a counselor. It was through the counselor that we came to the determination that we needed to curtail the contact. Actual visits didn't happen often as when she is out of jail and deeply mired in her addiction she is very transient. She would call when someone would let her use their phone.</p><p></p><p>My son would say he wanted to see her, but then he would have a lot of anxiety after seeing her. Plus the visits didn't always go well and it was upsetting if there were disagreements or if she were too stoned and I would cut the visit short. Oh, and jail visits will never happen. He seems to do better without contact.</p><p></p><p>Again, it really depends on your situation and how the kids are handling it. It is a very tricky situation explaining to kid about their parents' addiction without making them out to be bad or uncaring. This is why I suggest that you find someone professional to help you navigate it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 698727, member: 20051"] I'm going to say that it depends. For us it was better to cut off any type of visitation. It wasn't helping the oldest (he is the only 1 that really remembers her) and it was so infrequent due to her drug use, and her behavior was too erratic seeing her upset him more than it did any good. This is why I have suggested counseling. My oldest still sees a counselor. It was through the counselor that we came to the determination that we needed to curtail the contact. Actual visits didn't happen often as when she is out of jail and deeply mired in her addiction she is very transient. She would call when someone would let her use their phone. My son would say he wanted to see her, but then he would have a lot of anxiety after seeing her. Plus the visits didn't always go well and it was upsetting if there were disagreements or if she were too stoned and I would cut the visit short. Oh, and jail visits will never happen. He seems to do better without contact. Again, it really depends on your situation and how the kids are handling it. It is a very tricky situation explaining to kid about their parents' addiction without making them out to be bad or uncaring. This is why I suggest that you find someone professional to help you navigate it. [/QUOTE]
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