Morning Janna.
Ditto Linda. difficult child 1, to this day, when whatever is inside his body that makes him be a difficult child is turned on, he knows all the answers, he knows right from wrong, but he can't choose them when it matters. He knows this, he struggles with it, and I'm still learning it. It is so very frustrating to have a child who knows what they should do but can't make themselves do it.
As for difficult child 2, he is not handling his "specials", either. We will probably write into his IEP to either just pull him out of them or make them optional - (as in goes but doesn't have to participate (not interrupt, either)). The way these are handled at his current school makes a world of difference in how he handles the rest of his school day. Maybe revisit Dylan's IEP. Personally, I think he'll get along fine in life without having played the recorder.