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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 225790" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I handled it by mentioning something I had heard or read. Something in the lines of, "How sad. I'm reading that kids don't think that oral sex is having sex. Sure wish they knew they can get the same STDs in the throat that they can get in their vaginal areas. Have you heard that in your school, too?" This way was less threatening and less embarassing. It wasn't about her but about kids in general. It still got the message across.</p><p> </p><p>I never expected my daughter to be a virgin when she got married. I figured I'd be lucky if she was still a virgin at 15. However, I did let her know that I thought at least the first time you have sex should be with someone you care deeply about. You're giving the most intimate part of yourself to someone, so make darn sure that you can be proud of this when you're 30.</p><p> </p><p>Between 10 and 14, there was no way I could get mine to have a discussoin about sex per se. It all really did have to in a very round about way. I would also consider talking to her about some of the things you've read on the board and getting her input. Ask her how she thinks another mom should handle the problem. It will give you a good idea just what is a big deal in her mind re behavior and what's happening in her school re peer pressure, etc.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck! These discussion ain't fun but they sure be necessary.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 225790, member: 3626"] I handled it by mentioning something I had heard or read. Something in the lines of, "How sad. I'm reading that kids don't think that oral sex is having sex. Sure wish they knew they can get the same STDs in the throat that they can get in their vaginal areas. Have you heard that in your school, too?" This way was less threatening and less embarassing. It wasn't about her but about kids in general. It still got the message across. I never expected my daughter to be a virgin when she got married. I figured I'd be lucky if she was still a virgin at 15. However, I did let her know that I thought at least the first time you have sex should be with someone you care deeply about. You're giving the most intimate part of yourself to someone, so make darn sure that you can be proud of this when you're 30. Between 10 and 14, there was no way I could get mine to have a discussoin about sex per se. It all really did have to in a very round about way. I would also consider talking to her about some of the things you've read on the board and getting her input. Ask her how she thinks another mom should handle the problem. It will give you a good idea just what is a big deal in her mind re behavior and what's happening in her school re peer pressure, etc. Good luck! These discussion ain't fun but they sure be necessary. [/QUOTE]
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