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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 422979" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Malika, I understand exactly where you are coming from and if I were you and had come in on this situation and post at the time that you did, I would probably give the same advice you did. The reason others are saying different things is that I have been a member here for over 11 years now and most of them have come to know my boys like they know their own kids...lol.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> Over the years they have seen Jamie graduate from high school, go through four years in the Marines, marry one girl who cheated on him who he then divorced while still in the Marines then even before he got out of the Marines he met his new wife and had a baby with her. The boy simply cannot be alone. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> Its not that I dont like these girls, I wanted to badly. I actually liked his first wife quite a bit before she cheated on him. She was just a lost little girl who was really a difficult child and I think Jamie fell for that as a knight on the white horse type thing. She was in some type of alternative behavioral school before attempting to join the army but she got herself kicked out. She met Jamie when they were both at Ft. Leonardwood MO and when he left for Quantico she somehow showed up at his barracks and snuck in. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p></p><p> I ended up going up and getting her since he insisted they were going to marry and there was no talking him out of it. 9 months later she cheated on him in his own bed with 3 marines, one of which was a private under his own command. The private had just arrived on the base and had just had a baby the week before this all exploded. Tough on him because both he and Jamie's wife were kicked off the base! </p><p> </p><p></p><p> I was not thrilled that Jamie had two serious relationships in the span of his tour. Both of which led to marriage. That is just too much at his age. Actually it was three but the first one also cheated and I managed to convince him not to marry her the day after he got home from boot camp, thank heavens. So really he doesnt have a good track record. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> But I wanted to like both Crystal (first wife) and Billie ( current wife) . I really did. See, I had three boys and I always wanted a daughter to do those girly things that mom's' and daughter's do. I didnt have that sort of relationship with my mom either. So I really put in a whole lot of effort in with both these girls. I think Crystal tried but she was just too young and she had some sort of emotional problems plus she was jealous of Jamie's relationship with us. She tried to keep him away from us and he didnt like that at all. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> With Billie, I really went out of my way to attempt to get to know her and her family. I loved her mom. She was a great lady. Unfortunately she didnt like her dtr much either...lol. I could see why too. Billie treated her much the same way she treats me. Her mom died the same time I was in the hospital with meningitis. Fall 2008. I miss her. I tell you, she wouldnt be putting up with this junk either. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> There have been so many little things over the years that have just added up to where we are now. Like the Xmas when she was pregnant and they didnt have a ton of money and all she got Jamie was some shirts, sleeping pants and a couch blanket but she threw a hissy fit that rivaled any one of our kids because Jamie got her this foot massager thing that has water in it plus these rolling balls. Then he also got her this body pillow and a pillow for her to nurse the baby, whatever that thing is called. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> Omg...you would have thought he got her coal! She stormed out of the house, called all her friends, threatened to leave him at my house, embarrassed him in front of us, he was mortified. He told her to hit the road. We would take him back. He was still in the Marines so he had a time limit and she knew it. I mean, she sat there and watched as we got the kids stuff and I got Tony a few pairs of new jeans for work and what did I get? Not a dang thing! Just like always. Tony and I have never gotten anything for each other because its the kids that are important. I do normally get him some new jeans for work because he does have to provide the support for the family and I want to show my appreciation. I dont expect or want anything. My day is Mothers day. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> Then there was Hailie's first birthday. Of course, they didnt come down to Keyana's birthdays...any of them. We went up for Hailies first birthday and took Keyana. If Hailie was turning one, Keyana had just turned two. Just. They are 13 months apart. Billie has a friend with a little boy who is exactly the same age as Keyana. She made sure she had a couple of presents for him to open when Hailie opened hers but she didnt do the same thing for Keyana. You could just see the confusion in Keyana's eyes as Hailie had this huge first birthday complete with bounce house, snow cones, and tons and tons of presents and here was Keyana sitting off to one side on of our laps while everyone was making over Billie and Hailie opening all these presents. Keyana tried to go down and touch one because it was a doll or something and she was told to go away. Not so with little Adam. I was ******. All Keyana got from that party was a little plastic top. It was about one inch big. I, of course, had gifts for Hailie from us and Keyana for Hailie. Thats just the way Im built. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> We didnt go to the second birthday I dont think. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> Holidays are just hard. Always something goes wrong. If you look through my posts having anything to do with Jamie and Billie, you will see a recurring theme where they have just knocked down any and all attempts I have tried at being gracious. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> I am completely of the belief that she is in competition with Keyana for some reason. I think thats why she got pregnant so soon after she was born. She had always said she didnt want kids yet then when she saw Jamie holding Keyana, she immediately got pregnant. Hmmm. She has always told everyone that Keyana looks half black. Uhh...no. Keyana is part Native American but she is very light skinned and she has blond hair and blue eyes...lol. Everyone here has seen here pics. Billie just says that because Keyana has curly hair like everyone who has curly hair has to be black. Duh...shakes head in amazement. And actually, her kids are part Native American too! </p><p> </p><p></p><p> No, I think I am done trying. I said I was after the Xmas fiasco but I decided to give it one more try. I thought to myself maybe it was just the mom and not the child and maybe I could work on the relationship with the mom if I set some boundaries by doing the motel room to give myself some space to get away from all the stress when I need my time away but that didnt work. This child is just damaged. I would take her if they would let me and work with her but we all know that isnt going to happen so I am done. I have one more trip planned for July but that is only so I can go up and get the pictures my step-mom gave Jamie. I am really upset with myself that I didnt get that taken care of this trip but I just didnt have the time. I am also ticked off she gave them to him so that they would be safer with him. What on earth was she thinking? He has two little hellions who cant keep their hands to theirselves and parents who wont stop them or any other kid who comes in the home from touching anything. We were picking up pictures all weekend. Absurd. Asked Billie why...oh they wanted to look at them! </p><p> </p><p></p><p> So I am headed up one more time. One more motel room, one trip to Kinko's or Walmart and I will get every picture copied. They can have the copies...lol. I mean hell, they got my baby pics, pics of Billy, pics of 4 generations. I want that stuff too ya know! Now I am the oldest of the generation! And trust me, there will be no present for Hailie for her birthday. I may give her a card. LOL.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 422979, member: 1514"] Malika, I understand exactly where you are coming from and if I were you and had come in on this situation and post at the time that you did, I would probably give the same advice you did. The reason others are saying different things is that I have been a member here for over 11 years now and most of them have come to know my boys like they know their own kids...lol. Over the years they have seen Jamie graduate from high school, go through four years in the Marines, marry one girl who cheated on him who he then divorced while still in the Marines then even before he got out of the Marines he met his new wife and had a baby with her. The boy simply cannot be alone. Its not that I dont like these girls, I wanted to badly. I actually liked his first wife quite a bit before she cheated on him. She was just a lost little girl who was really a difficult child and I think Jamie fell for that as a knight on the white horse type thing. She was in some type of alternative behavioral school before attempting to join the army but she got herself kicked out. She met Jamie when they were both at Ft. Leonardwood MO and when he left for Quantico she somehow showed up at his barracks and snuck in. I ended up going up and getting her since he insisted they were going to marry and there was no talking him out of it. 9 months later she cheated on him in his own bed with 3 marines, one of which was a private under his own command. The private had just arrived on the base and had just had a baby the week before this all exploded. Tough on him because both he and Jamie's wife were kicked off the base! I was not thrilled that Jamie had two serious relationships in the span of his tour. Both of which led to marriage. That is just too much at his age. Actually it was three but the first one also cheated and I managed to convince him not to marry her the day after he got home from boot camp, thank heavens. So really he doesnt have a good track record. But I wanted to like both Crystal (first wife) and Billie ( current wife) . I really did. See, I had three boys and I always wanted a daughter to do those girly things that mom's' and daughter's do. I didnt have that sort of relationship with my mom either. So I really put in a whole lot of effort in with both these girls. I think Crystal tried but she was just too young and she had some sort of emotional problems plus she was jealous of Jamie's relationship with us. She tried to keep him away from us and he didnt like that at all. With Billie, I really went out of my way to attempt to get to know her and her family. I loved her mom. She was a great lady. Unfortunately she didnt like her dtr much either...lol. I could see why too. Billie treated her much the same way she treats me. Her mom died the same time I was in the hospital with meningitis. Fall 2008. I miss her. I tell you, she wouldnt be putting up with this junk either. There have been so many little things over the years that have just added up to where we are now. Like the Xmas when she was pregnant and they didnt have a ton of money and all she got Jamie was some shirts, sleeping pants and a couch blanket but she threw a hissy fit that rivaled any one of our kids because Jamie got her this foot massager thing that has water in it plus these rolling balls. Then he also got her this body pillow and a pillow for her to nurse the baby, whatever that thing is called. Omg...you would have thought he got her coal! She stormed out of the house, called all her friends, threatened to leave him at my house, embarrassed him in front of us, he was mortified. He told her to hit the road. We would take him back. He was still in the Marines so he had a time limit and she knew it. I mean, she sat there and watched as we got the kids stuff and I got Tony a few pairs of new jeans for work and what did I get? Not a dang thing! Just like always. Tony and I have never gotten anything for each other because its the kids that are important. I do normally get him some new jeans for work because he does have to provide the support for the family and I want to show my appreciation. I dont expect or want anything. My day is Mothers day. Then there was Hailie's first birthday. Of course, they didnt come down to Keyana's birthdays...any of them. We went up for Hailies first birthday and took Keyana. If Hailie was turning one, Keyana had just turned two. Just. They are 13 months apart. Billie has a friend with a little boy who is exactly the same age as Keyana. She made sure she had a couple of presents for him to open when Hailie opened hers but she didnt do the same thing for Keyana. You could just see the confusion in Keyana's eyes as Hailie had this huge first birthday complete with bounce house, snow cones, and tons and tons of presents and here was Keyana sitting off to one side on of our laps while everyone was making over Billie and Hailie opening all these presents. Keyana tried to go down and touch one because it was a doll or something and she was told to go away. Not so with little Adam. I was ******. All Keyana got from that party was a little plastic top. It was about one inch big. I, of course, had gifts for Hailie from us and Keyana for Hailie. Thats just the way Im built. We didnt go to the second birthday I dont think. Holidays are just hard. Always something goes wrong. If you look through my posts having anything to do with Jamie and Billie, you will see a recurring theme where they have just knocked down any and all attempts I have tried at being gracious. I am completely of the belief that she is in competition with Keyana for some reason. I think thats why she got pregnant so soon after she was born. She had always said she didnt want kids yet then when she saw Jamie holding Keyana, she immediately got pregnant. Hmmm. She has always told everyone that Keyana looks half black. Uhh...no. Keyana is part Native American but she is very light skinned and she has blond hair and blue eyes...lol. Everyone here has seen here pics. Billie just says that because Keyana has curly hair like everyone who has curly hair has to be black. Duh...shakes head in amazement. And actually, her kids are part Native American too! No, I think I am done trying. I said I was after the Xmas fiasco but I decided to give it one more try. I thought to myself maybe it was just the mom and not the child and maybe I could work on the relationship with the mom if I set some boundaries by doing the motel room to give myself some space to get away from all the stress when I need my time away but that didnt work. This child is just damaged. I would take her if they would let me and work with her but we all know that isnt going to happen so I am done. I have one more trip planned for July but that is only so I can go up and get the pictures my step-mom gave Jamie. I am really upset with myself that I didnt get that taken care of this trip but I just didnt have the time. I am also ticked off she gave them to him so that they would be safer with him. What on earth was she thinking? He has two little hellions who cant keep their hands to theirselves and parents who wont stop them or any other kid who comes in the home from touching anything. We were picking up pictures all weekend. Absurd. Asked Billie why...oh they wanted to look at them! So I am headed up one more time. One more motel room, one trip to Kinko's or Walmart and I will get every picture copied. They can have the copies...lol. I mean hell, they got my baby pics, pics of Billy, pics of 4 generations. I want that stuff too ya know! Now I am the oldest of the generation! And trust me, there will be no present for Hailie for her birthday. I may give her a card. LOL. [/QUOTE]
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