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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 164521"><p>I wouldn't treat this as a punishment issue. She's 10 and curious, but probably doesn't know why. She probably heard someone talking about it or something. She might have tried to hide it more out of embarrassment than worrying about getting trouble. Or both.</p><p></p><p>I would use this as an opportunity to address some self-esteem issues, though. You're not going to solve everything in one conversation or even two or three. But repetition does work. They do hear us and we do become the little voice in the back of their head. At least I hope so. I know I used to hear my mom's voice. And I see my daughter FINALLY starting to use some of what I've repeated over and over and over again.</p><p></p><p>I would tell her that what she saw wasn't 'real'. That it's not what it's like in real life and the images go through so much editing. </p><p></p><p>So many kids - girls, especially - really judge their worth based on some edited photo of some girl on a magazine or on tv. They have no idea how much editing is involved, how much radical dieting, how much personnel it takes to create the hair and makeup, etc. </p><p></p><p>I had - and still struggle with - serious body image and self esteem issues. I was in my 20's when I realized just how much went into what we see as real and I tell you...it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. </p><p></p><p>I would impress upon her the importance of being healthy. Again, not going to fix it in one visit. But I do believe that even with the little time you have with her you can make a difference. It might take a while - couple years or more - to really start to resonate with her - but it will be worth it.</p><p></p><p>I hope I'm making some kind of sense. I'm really struggling with my mental capacity tonight.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 164521"] I wouldn't treat this as a punishment issue. She's 10 and curious, but probably doesn't know why. She probably heard someone talking about it or something. She might have tried to hide it more out of embarrassment than worrying about getting trouble. Or both. I would use this as an opportunity to address some self-esteem issues, though. You're not going to solve everything in one conversation or even two or three. But repetition does work. They do hear us and we do become the little voice in the back of their head. At least I hope so. I know I used to hear my mom's voice. And I see my daughter FINALLY starting to use some of what I've repeated over and over and over again. I would tell her that what she saw wasn't 'real'. That it's not what it's like in real life and the images go through so much editing. So many kids - girls, especially - really judge their worth based on some edited photo of some girl on a magazine or on tv. They have no idea how much editing is involved, how much radical dieting, how much personnel it takes to create the hair and makeup, etc. I had - and still struggle with - serious body image and self esteem issues. I was in my 20's when I realized just how much went into what we see as real and I tell you...it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I would impress upon her the importance of being healthy. Again, not going to fix it in one visit. But I do believe that even with the little time you have with her you can make a difference. It might take a while - couple years or more - to really start to resonate with her - but it will be worth it. I hope I'm making some kind of sense. I'm really struggling with my mental capacity tonight. [/QUOTE]
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