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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 164549" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Shari,</p><p> </p><p>There is a lot going on here. For one, I don't think the porn is a huge, huge issue. While <strong>I</strong> think 10 is pretty darn young, she could have been responding to something she heard. I think it's tough the first time we catch our child mastrubating (or become aware they are doing it) or find out they are tyring to view porn. It's just not something most parents are comfortable with - but it really is natural. It's time to worry when it becomes obsessive or is believed to be attributable to a mental disorder.</p><p> </p><p>I can tell you that whether or not she admits the porn is of no consequence. She will be embarrassed to have been caught and surely will not say "I was curious." In my opinion, what is important is that you state your stand on what is and what is not allowed in your house. I would let her know that you know she was looking at inappropriate adult material on the internet. No asking, just stating what you know. That gives her no reason to lie.</p><p> </p><p>Then I would let her know that is is totally normal that she be curious about sex, about nudity, etc. However, the type of stuff on the computer is called pornography because it degrades men and woman. That type of filth will not be allowed in your home, period. Then end the conversation right there.</p><p> </p><p>In regards to her body, like another poster said, it is good that she is not measuring herself by the yardstick of our media. However, if she cannot get up off the floor by herself at 10, it sounds like we are talking more than just a little extra weight, we are talking extremes. Sounds like it may be time to get a doctor involved in a eating and exercise program. Perhaps she may also need some testing to check thyroid and such.</p><p> </p><p>I think it's great that she wants to do, but like you, I would be concerned about the reactions of her peers. But on the other hand, it appears she marches to her own drummer which can be a wonerful thing!</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 164549, member: 805"] Shari, There is a lot going on here. For one, I don't think the porn is a huge, huge issue. While [B]I[/B] think 10 is pretty darn young, she could have been responding to something she heard. I think it's tough the first time we catch our child mastrubating (or become aware they are doing it) or find out they are tyring to view porn. It's just not something most parents are comfortable with - but it really is natural. It's time to worry when it becomes obsessive or is believed to be attributable to a mental disorder. I can tell you that whether or not she admits the porn is of no consequence. She will be embarrassed to have been caught and surely will not say "I was curious." In my opinion, what is important is that you state your stand on what is and what is not allowed in your house. I would let her know that you know she was looking at inappropriate adult material on the internet. No asking, just stating what you know. That gives her no reason to lie. Then I would let her know that is is totally normal that she be curious about sex, about nudity, etc. However, the type of stuff on the computer is called pornography because it degrades men and woman. That type of filth will not be allowed in your home, period. Then end the conversation right there. In regards to her body, like another poster said, it is good that she is not measuring herself by the yardstick of our media. However, if she cannot get up off the floor by herself at 10, it sounds like we are talking more than just a little extra weight, we are talking extremes. Sounds like it may be time to get a doctor involved in a eating and exercise program. Perhaps she may also need some testing to check thyroid and such. I think it's great that she wants to do, but like you, I would be concerned about the reactions of her peers. But on the other hand, it appears she marches to her own drummer which can be a wonerful thing! Sharon [/QUOTE]
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