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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 105908" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>The obsession with possessions is NOT normal, not to this extent. A woman I know (I can't use the term 'friend' any more) is like this; not many friends because she simply isn't on the same wavelength, she's not good at following a conversation. I used to talk to her often over the phone but would find that the conversation would need to flow in her direction, usually talking about issues she could connect with. And unfortunately, she could only connect with possessions, 'things', and issues surrounding money and wealth. When stressed she would go shopping, often buying stuff she didn't need or have much use for. She takes up various hobbies (such as scrapbooking) and stocks up on all the trappings, running her credit card to the max and justifying it because when she sells what she will make, she will get a lot of money. Then she peddles her wares everywhere, getting upset that people aren't interested.</p><p></p><p>Whenever she buys something, she can always justify it, even if the excuse is incredibly flimsy. Then she will be so short of money that she literally begs. I've had her 'borrow' money from me (I knew I'd never get it back).</p><p></p><p>I know this woman has problems that go way beyond this symptom. As in a lot of things, a symptom like this is like the tip of the iceberg, something very nasty and dangerous is lurking in the hidden depths. This woman desperately needed help when she was a girl, but from what I can work out her mother wasn't prepared to help her in the way she needed (I think her mother is very similar, always worrying over money and appearances, she wouldn't have wanted people to think her daughter needed a psychiatrist).</p><p></p><p>Counselling would be a good start. I would get it happening, if you can do this in any way. Even if you can't organise something formally, maybe there is another, informal, way of helping her. Support networks, after-school classes for this or that which force her to mix with other kids and work with them (like difficult child 3's drama class for Special Needs kids).</p><p></p><p>If the mother refuses to help and you need her approval, then talk to the police informally, see if getting them involved would get difficult child the help she should have. Maybe her mother doesn't want her to see a counsellor, because she's afraid that whoever he daughter sees will identify the mother as a big part of the problem? Whether that's true or not, the fear that it could be true could be the stumbling block.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 105908, member: 1991"] The obsession with possessions is NOT normal, not to this extent. A woman I know (I can't use the term 'friend' any more) is like this; not many friends because she simply isn't on the same wavelength, she's not good at following a conversation. I used to talk to her often over the phone but would find that the conversation would need to flow in her direction, usually talking about issues she could connect with. And unfortunately, she could only connect with possessions, 'things', and issues surrounding money and wealth. When stressed she would go shopping, often buying stuff she didn't need or have much use for. She takes up various hobbies (such as scrapbooking) and stocks up on all the trappings, running her credit card to the max and justifying it because when she sells what she will make, she will get a lot of money. Then she peddles her wares everywhere, getting upset that people aren't interested. Whenever she buys something, she can always justify it, even if the excuse is incredibly flimsy. Then she will be so short of money that she literally begs. I've had her 'borrow' money from me (I knew I'd never get it back). I know this woman has problems that go way beyond this symptom. As in a lot of things, a symptom like this is like the tip of the iceberg, something very nasty and dangerous is lurking in the hidden depths. This woman desperately needed help when she was a girl, but from what I can work out her mother wasn't prepared to help her in the way she needed (I think her mother is very similar, always worrying over money and appearances, she wouldn't have wanted people to think her daughter needed a psychiatrist). Counselling would be a good start. I would get it happening, if you can do this in any way. Even if you can't organise something formally, maybe there is another, informal, way of helping her. Support networks, after-school classes for this or that which force her to mix with other kids and work with them (like difficult child 3's drama class for Special Needs kids). If the mother refuses to help and you need her approval, then talk to the police informally, see if getting them involved would get difficult child the help she should have. Maybe her mother doesn't want her to see a counsellor, because she's afraid that whoever he daughter sees will identify the mother as a big part of the problem? Whether that's true or not, the fear that it could be true could be the stumbling block. Marg [/QUOTE]
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