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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 50315" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Karen the whole easy child thing was a different set of issues that were hard to deal with. I felt like I had to completely change channels when parenting easy child and difficult child. </p><p>When easy child was being difficult(this being a relative term) I had to tread lightly. I was so traumatized from difficult child I tended to over react to small things. </p><p>As easy child got older he would use guilt. It was the "difficult child never has to worry about XYZ". Finally I had to just tell him that it hurt me when he said that. It's still his last resort weapon when he feels he is up against the wall(as DDD says) </p><p>In the end, I told him that although he was a good kid and a easy child that he wasn't done cooking and it was a parents job to guide him and make him aware of better choices. Just because he was a easy child didn't mean he didn't need parenting. Consequences are what we use to help him be aware of his choice. </p><p></p><p>I expected easy child to push the boundaries at least once. Fortunately, it hasn't been drugs or alcohol. It's normal teen stuff and I agree we don't want them submissive. Friends can undermine a easy child's sense of right or wrong. </p><p></p><p>I like the conversational tone that DDD suggests. I try to keep an open attitude but I do have a tendency to resort to being authoritarian if I am surprised. </p><p></p><p>If your easy child feels badly and discusses the issues with you, then this testing her resolve to do the right thing is a good life lesson. I remind easy child that to those who are given much(compared to difficult child) that much is expected. He can't use the same ruler on his behavior as we do with difficult child. He can lose all the privileges that he presently enjoys. </p><p></p><p>I hope your easy child grows through this trauma. It's a bit of a reality check for us too. It's unrealistic to think easy child's will never disappoint us. It's one of those things I have to remind myself regularly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 50315, member: 3"] Karen the whole easy child thing was a different set of issues that were hard to deal with. I felt like I had to completely change channels when parenting easy child and difficult child. When easy child was being difficult(this being a relative term) I had to tread lightly. I was so traumatized from difficult child I tended to over react to small things. As easy child got older he would use guilt. It was the "difficult child never has to worry about XYZ". Finally I had to just tell him that it hurt me when he said that. It's still his last resort weapon when he feels he is up against the wall(as DDD says) In the end, I told him that although he was a good kid and a easy child that he wasn't done cooking and it was a parents job to guide him and make him aware of better choices. Just because he was a easy child didn't mean he didn't need parenting. Consequences are what we use to help him be aware of his choice. I expected easy child to push the boundaries at least once. Fortunately, it hasn't been drugs or alcohol. It's normal teen stuff and I agree we don't want them submissive. Friends can undermine a easy child's sense of right or wrong. I like the conversational tone that DDD suggests. I try to keep an open attitude but I do have a tendency to resort to being authoritarian if I am surprised. If your easy child feels badly and discusses the issues with you, then this testing her resolve to do the right thing is a good life lesson. I remind easy child that to those who are given much(compared to difficult child) that much is expected. He can't use the same ruler on his behavior as we do with difficult child. He can lose all the privileges that he presently enjoys. I hope your easy child grows through this trauma. It's a bit of a reality check for us too. It's unrealistic to think easy child's will never disappoint us. It's one of those things I have to remind myself regularly. [/QUOTE]
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