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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 42360" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>Okay, take this for what it is worth....or don't take it at all. And I mean it in all kindness and, BELIEVE ME, empathy. Daughter is 15 and well, it's pretty much been h*ll around the Dazed household at times. Yesterday, I drove 20 miles (with gas at 3.30 gallon!)to take her home and exclude her from a shopping trip because of how awful she was to me and her brother. Yes, she had a tough day at school with all of her drama, but I do not allow it as an excuse for outrageous displays of disrespect.I drove home, booted her out (well, she tried to hang on to the car in the drive-way), and went back to go shopping. </p><p></p><p>I understand PCs issues and frustrations, but WHO THE HECK CARES?</p><p></p><p>You've been ill. He gets testy because he can't get his permit?? Criticizes because YOU didn't empty the dishwasher??</p><p></p><p></p><p>Oh, boo hoo! (and I've actually said that to Daughter)</p><p></p><p>"Teaching Moments" aside, sometimes I believe it is necessary flat out lay down the law and tell him to cut the cr*p with the self-entitlement nonsense. Then, until his attitude makes a 180, you don't "do" anything other than what the law requires and STICK TO IT!. Please do not be manipulated by any guilt trips like, "you're a bad mother",etc., blah, blah, blah. </p><p></p><p>Listen, I know it's not easy to be the sibling of a difficult child. I know, I was a sibling of two of them. However, that is simply no excuse to act like a brat and expect you cater to him. </p><p></p><p>As for your Mom. From my vantage point, she's is not his Mother. I know that it is tempting to use his relationship with her as a way to get through to him, but I wouldn't advise it. It puts you in the position of being "2nd in command" and another way to undermine your authority. Do not hand your power over on a silver platter. I wouldn't even discuss easy child and parenting with her anymore. Yes, she helped when he was young, and I'm sure you thanked her well enough. You need to put up a solid boundry with her. I find that if I put up a clear boundry up and make it clear it's not to be crossed, people, and most importantly, FAMILY, respect it without question. This Mama don't play that. </p><p></p><p>It's okay. They will still love you. </p><p></p><p>(((hugs))) Take care of yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 42360, member: 831"] Okay, take this for what it is worth....or don't take it at all. And I mean it in all kindness and, BELIEVE ME, empathy. Daughter is 15 and well, it's pretty much been h*ll around the Dazed household at times. Yesterday, I drove 20 miles (with gas at 3.30 gallon!)to take her home and exclude her from a shopping trip because of how awful she was to me and her brother. Yes, she had a tough day at school with all of her drama, but I do not allow it as an excuse for outrageous displays of disrespect.I drove home, booted her out (well, she tried to hang on to the car in the drive-way), and went back to go shopping. I understand PCs issues and frustrations, but WHO THE HECK CARES? You've been ill. He gets testy because he can't get his permit?? Criticizes because YOU didn't empty the dishwasher?? Oh, boo hoo! (and I've actually said that to Daughter) "Teaching Moments" aside, sometimes I believe it is necessary flat out lay down the law and tell him to cut the cr*p with the self-entitlement nonsense. Then, until his attitude makes a 180, you don't "do" anything other than what the law requires and STICK TO IT!. Please do not be manipulated by any guilt trips like, "you're a bad mother",etc., blah, blah, blah. Listen, I know it's not easy to be the sibling of a difficult child. I know, I was a sibling of two of them. However, that is simply no excuse to act like a brat and expect you cater to him. As for your Mom. From my vantage point, she's is not his Mother. I know that it is tempting to use his relationship with her as a way to get through to him, but I wouldn't advise it. It puts you in the position of being "2nd in command" and another way to undermine your authority. Do not hand your power over on a silver platter. I wouldn't even discuss easy child and parenting with her anymore. Yes, she helped when he was young, and I'm sure you thanked her well enough. You need to put up a solid boundry with her. I find that if I put up a clear boundry up and make it clear it's not to be crossed, people, and most importantly, FAMILY, respect it without question. This Mama don't play that. It's okay. They will still love you. (((hugs))) Take care of yourself. [/QUOTE]
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