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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 434877" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It is my understanding that she hadn't worked there long enough to get FMLA protection. Employers do NOT like FMLA so they are real sticklers about you meeting each and every single criteria. I actually had the HR dept at a bank deliberately give me false info and had them put a ton of pressure on my boss so that I would come back before FMLA kicked in after an injury. They also fought the worker's comp claim for a very long time. </p><p></p><p>DO apply for both medicaid for the injury AND ask the hospital about programs to cut the costs for those with-o insurance. even with a good income I have seen hospital bills cut 70-95% for the uninsured. Also apply for the federal cobra subsidy. It paid 80% of the cost for us.</p><p></p><p>You are right about cutting corners. While she is laid up, go and spend $20 or so at a big bookstore or find online the "Tightwad Gazette" by Amy Daczyian. There are 3 indiv volumes and an all-3-in-1 volume. Get the 3 in 1. It has a LOT of articles about how to be a tightwad in every aspect of your life. It has been an economic miracle for us in many ways. I not only had the 3 books when they came out, I also had to get the all in one volume because I wore them out. It has really GOOD cheap recipes, crafts and ideas and it presents being a tightwad in a very doable and enjoyable way - doesn't hide the fact that it is work but makes it more rewarding and a lifestyle change rather than making you feel deprived. My husband was a spendthrift, never bought used anything, if he was done using something it was tossed in the trash rather than sold or given away because it was "useless", etc.... He now really enjoys many of the tightwad things that he never thought he would.</p><p></p><p>They will come through this but encourage her to also see a therapist - the trauma is going to have a huge impact on her PTSD wise. She will NEED some help coping. </p><p></p><p>Be super careful about allowing katie to help. M and Katie are scammers and if they think they can take advantage of easy child and sister in law, they will. It would be nice if she rose to the occasion in a good way, but experience with gfgbro has proved that it won't happen. And he hasn't done even half of what either of those two have. IF she cannot see them go and get something out of her stockpile, or it isn't locked up, they will take personal hygeine, cleaning, almost anything. Just because they can. It would be nice for you and husband and Nichole to have katie there to help, but it will be more risk than it is worth. Plus, with all the ways you know she abused her kids, and what you suspect, it just isn't safe for her to be around the other grandkids. It would be a risk to their safety on every level.</p><p></p><p>Sorry to have to say that, but sometimes in a crisis you want to count on people and then you end up even worse off. easy child would never forgive herself if this accident was a reason for katie to babysit (even at easy child's house with easy child there) and the kids were hurt in any way. She doesn't deserve that.</p><p></p><p>Sending lots of hugs. Churches very well may be helpful - but you have to call more than just one or two usually.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 434877, member: 1233"] It is my understanding that she hadn't worked there long enough to get FMLA protection. Employers do NOT like FMLA so they are real sticklers about you meeting each and every single criteria. I actually had the HR dept at a bank deliberately give me false info and had them put a ton of pressure on my boss so that I would come back before FMLA kicked in after an injury. They also fought the worker's comp claim for a very long time. DO apply for both medicaid for the injury AND ask the hospital about programs to cut the costs for those with-o insurance. even with a good income I have seen hospital bills cut 70-95% for the uninsured. Also apply for the federal cobra subsidy. It paid 80% of the cost for us. You are right about cutting corners. While she is laid up, go and spend $20 or so at a big bookstore or find online the "Tightwad Gazette" by Amy Daczyian. There are 3 indiv volumes and an all-3-in-1 volume. Get the 3 in 1. It has a LOT of articles about how to be a tightwad in every aspect of your life. It has been an economic miracle for us in many ways. I not only had the 3 books when they came out, I also had to get the all in one volume because I wore them out. It has really GOOD cheap recipes, crafts and ideas and it presents being a tightwad in a very doable and enjoyable way - doesn't hide the fact that it is work but makes it more rewarding and a lifestyle change rather than making you feel deprived. My husband was a spendthrift, never bought used anything, if he was done using something it was tossed in the trash rather than sold or given away because it was "useless", etc.... He now really enjoys many of the tightwad things that he never thought he would. They will come through this but encourage her to also see a therapist - the trauma is going to have a huge impact on her PTSD wise. She will NEED some help coping. Be super careful about allowing katie to help. M and Katie are scammers and if they think they can take advantage of easy child and sister in law, they will. It would be nice if she rose to the occasion in a good way, but experience with gfgbro has proved that it won't happen. And he hasn't done even half of what either of those two have. IF she cannot see them go and get something out of her stockpile, or it isn't locked up, they will take personal hygeine, cleaning, almost anything. Just because they can. It would be nice for you and husband and Nichole to have katie there to help, but it will be more risk than it is worth. Plus, with all the ways you know she abused her kids, and what you suspect, it just isn't safe for her to be around the other grandkids. It would be a risk to their safety on every level. Sorry to have to say that, but sometimes in a crisis you want to count on people and then you end up even worse off. easy child would never forgive herself if this accident was a reason for katie to babysit (even at easy child's house with easy child there) and the kids were hurt in any way. She doesn't deserve that. Sending lots of hugs. Churches very well may be helpful - but you have to call more than just one or two usually. [/QUOTE]
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