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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 378739" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Sharon--</p><p> </p><p>Ugh!!! I could have written this exact post about my difficult child soooo many times...</p><p>And like you, we were never able to find a consequence that made any difference.</p><p> </p><p>The therapist suggested that we only allow difficult child to use certain dishes, and those are hers to eat from and clean and if she doesn't clean them? O well, she eats on dirty dishes.</p><p>To me - that seems like a passive-aggressive solution to a difficult child problem. PLUS I know that difficult child would have no problem simply using everyone else's dishes with some excuse or another...so we never implemented the doctor's suggestion.</p><p> </p><p>At this point, husband, DS or I do the dishes. difficult child is never asked...the battle is just not worth it to me...</p><p> </p><p>BUT - when she wants to do some "age-appropriate" priviledge....I remind her that she has not been performing "age appropriate" responsibilities...and then I tell her that if she wants the priviledge...she must also have the responsibility.</p><p> </p><p>So far, she has decided there is not a priviledge that she wants badly enough. This is OK with me - the only person "missing out" is difficult child and it requires no extra effort on my part to enforce...whereas if we enacted some kind of "punishment" it would be a lot of time and effort put into enforcing it.</p><p> </p><p>I figure she'll eventually get with the program....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 378739, member: 6546"] Sharon-- Ugh!!! I could have written this exact post about my difficult child soooo many times... And like you, we were never able to find a consequence that made any difference. The therapist suggested that we only allow difficult child to use certain dishes, and those are hers to eat from and clean and if she doesn't clean them? O well, she eats on dirty dishes. To me - that seems like a passive-aggressive solution to a difficult child problem. PLUS I know that difficult child would have no problem simply using everyone else's dishes with some excuse or another...so we never implemented the doctor's suggestion. At this point, husband, DS or I do the dishes. difficult child is never asked...the battle is just not worth it to me... BUT - when she wants to do some "age-appropriate" priviledge....I remind her that she has not been performing "age appropriate" responsibilities...and then I tell her that if she wants the priviledge...she must also have the responsibility. So far, she has decided there is not a priviledge that she wants badly enough. This is OK with me - the only person "missing out" is difficult child and it requires no extra effort on my part to enforce...whereas if we enacted some kind of "punishment" it would be a lot of time and effort put into enforcing it. I figure she'll eventually get with the program.... [/QUOTE]
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