Really unsure how to handle easy child/difficult child right now. She is wound so tight that she explodes at every little thing. Talk about walking on eggshells! A couple of things seem to be going on:
1. Right now she cannot stand to be near difficult child at all. He cannot talk to her, ask her a question, or basically look at him without her screaming at him that he should not talk or look at her. (This is even when he isn't acting gfgish). She just has 0 tolerance for him at all and is constantly on his case about everything. This, of course, gets him riled up and he responds as a difficult child. He truly doesn't get why she is so mean to him. husband and I really don't know what to do to help. He has taken her out to dinner and movies just the two of them and I offer to do things with just her but nothing helps.
2. She is acting very anti-social. She says she has no friends (her choice according to her-she says her friends still want to hang out with her-who knows the truth?). She says she eats lunch by herself and just reads a book. Over winter break she was hanging out with her friends. Now she says they are all shallow! When we try to talk to her she just says she isn't upset about it so we shouldn't worry about it.
3. Strangely, she is doing a little more around the house to help with-o being asked (she organized the pantry, shoveled, did dishes all in the last week without being asked-this is totally unlike her-it's a good thing but weird with how she is acting about everything else).
Talking to her is very difficult. If you ask a question she is liable to blow; sometimes she will talk but very little. She almost acts like she wants to be miserable. I know this has to be related to other things and that no one wants to miserable but how do we help someone who is so bent on wanting to be the way she is (or at least saying that).
She is suppose to graduate in June and we don't want to have to kick her out of the house; she wants to stay and go to a 2 year college and then later transfer, however, we may have to ask her to leave because she is making things so difficult for difficult child.
Any thoughts or ideas?
1. Right now she cannot stand to be near difficult child at all. He cannot talk to her, ask her a question, or basically look at him without her screaming at him that he should not talk or look at her. (This is even when he isn't acting gfgish). She just has 0 tolerance for him at all and is constantly on his case about everything. This, of course, gets him riled up and he responds as a difficult child. He truly doesn't get why she is so mean to him. husband and I really don't know what to do to help. He has taken her out to dinner and movies just the two of them and I offer to do things with just her but nothing helps.
2. She is acting very anti-social. She says she has no friends (her choice according to her-she says her friends still want to hang out with her-who knows the truth?). She says she eats lunch by herself and just reads a book. Over winter break she was hanging out with her friends. Now she says they are all shallow! When we try to talk to her she just says she isn't upset about it so we shouldn't worry about it.
3. Strangely, she is doing a little more around the house to help with-o being asked (she organized the pantry, shoveled, did dishes all in the last week without being asked-this is totally unlike her-it's a good thing but weird with how she is acting about everything else).
Talking to her is very difficult. If you ask a question she is liable to blow; sometimes she will talk but very little. She almost acts like she wants to be miserable. I know this has to be related to other things and that no one wants to miserable but how do we help someone who is so bent on wanting to be the way she is (or at least saying that).
She is suppose to graduate in June and we don't want to have to kick her out of the house; she wants to stay and go to a 2 year college and then later transfer, however, we may have to ask her to leave because she is making things so difficult for difficult child.
Any thoughts or ideas?
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