Californiablonde
Well-Known Member
So I got an automated phone call from my son's school on Saturday night telling me he made the honor roll and I am invited to a special assembly on Tuesday. We were all out in the livingroom watching a movie when I received the call, and I very nonchalantly told SO about the assembly. I made sure not to over do it. I didn't brag. I didn't compare my kids to one another. All I did was mention to him that I would be taking an hour off of work on Tuesday to go to the assembly.
Suddendly difficult child flew into a hissy fit. She told me it was SO obvious I was disappointed in her because she will never be as smart as easy child, blah blah blah, and even went as far as to tell me that I mentioned the assembly on purpose just to make her feel bad. I have no idea how she could possibly accuse me of trying to hurt her feelings. I go out of my way never to compare my kids to each other. Yes, there are plenty of times I think inside my head, "Can't difficult child be like easy child and just go to school and do what she's told?" But I never, ever say it to her out loud.
I told her that maybe one day she could get on the honor roll too if she started going to school on a regular basis. All that did was make it worse. She told me that it was a joke to ever think someone as stupid as her could ever make the honor roll, and I knew it. She accused me of being condescending when that was the last thing I wanted to do. I was trying to give her hope. She was yelling and screaming and trying to make me feel guilty for being proud of easy child.
I got so upset with her that I went on one of my bipolar support groups on my cell phone to vent. I explained how difficult child was going off on me about easy child making the honor roll. She was sitting next to me on the couch, supposedly watching the movie. Well she wasn't. She actually leaned over and read part of what I wrote to the group. She then accused me of talking smack about her in front of a bunch of strangers. She said I was the worst mother she has ever seen to be talking s*** about her very own daughter. She accused me of telling the group I was disappointed in her, which I never even came close to saying.
She then told me she was going to go on facebook and put me on blast for being such a horrible parent. I reminded her that we are friends, so I will see anything bad she writes about me. She told me that was the point. She wanted me to feel as bad about myself as I was making her feel. I told her I wasn't trying to talk bad about her, but that our fight upset me and I was seeking support. She then told me that if I wanted to talk about her, I should be talking to family members only and not strangers on the internet. I tried my hardest to make her see my point of view, but to no avail. She ruined the night for me. I no longer wanted to watch the movie and I went to bed early. So am I supposed to never mention easy child's accomplishments in front of her anymore? Should I be feeling guilty for having a proud parent moment? Next time should I just keep my mouth shut? I really feel like difficult child is throwing me under the bus but I feel guilty.
Suddendly difficult child flew into a hissy fit. She told me it was SO obvious I was disappointed in her because she will never be as smart as easy child, blah blah blah, and even went as far as to tell me that I mentioned the assembly on purpose just to make her feel bad. I have no idea how she could possibly accuse me of trying to hurt her feelings. I go out of my way never to compare my kids to each other. Yes, there are plenty of times I think inside my head, "Can't difficult child be like easy child and just go to school and do what she's told?" But I never, ever say it to her out loud.
I told her that maybe one day she could get on the honor roll too if she started going to school on a regular basis. All that did was make it worse. She told me that it was a joke to ever think someone as stupid as her could ever make the honor roll, and I knew it. She accused me of being condescending when that was the last thing I wanted to do. I was trying to give her hope. She was yelling and screaming and trying to make me feel guilty for being proud of easy child.
I got so upset with her that I went on one of my bipolar support groups on my cell phone to vent. I explained how difficult child was going off on me about easy child making the honor roll. She was sitting next to me on the couch, supposedly watching the movie. Well she wasn't. She actually leaned over and read part of what I wrote to the group. She then accused me of talking smack about her in front of a bunch of strangers. She said I was the worst mother she has ever seen to be talking s*** about her very own daughter. She accused me of telling the group I was disappointed in her, which I never even came close to saying.
She then told me she was going to go on facebook and put me on blast for being such a horrible parent. I reminded her that we are friends, so I will see anything bad she writes about me. She told me that was the point. She wanted me to feel as bad about myself as I was making her feel. I told her I wasn't trying to talk bad about her, but that our fight upset me and I was seeking support. She then told me that if I wanted to talk about her, I should be talking to family members only and not strangers on the internet. I tried my hardest to make her see my point of view, but to no avail. She ruined the night for me. I no longer wanted to watch the movie and I went to bed early. So am I supposed to never mention easy child's accomplishments in front of her anymore? Should I be feeling guilty for having a proud parent moment? Next time should I just keep my mouth shut? I really feel like difficult child is throwing me under the bus but I feel guilty.
