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easy child got on the honor roll and difficult child and I had a big blowout fight
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 613082" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think I know what set your difficult child off and it really isn't that she is angry at you or her sibling. If I got it right, she is angry at herself and feeling very inferior. And your comment set off something close to her surface. Like your difficult child, I had so many learning disabilities and mental health issues that I did poorly in school, although I had the IQ to have done well, if I hadn't had so many other issues in the way. My younger sister always did fairly well plus she had a lot of friends and my brother was a genius. I don't think he ever got any grade from kindergarten to his sixth year of college that wasn't an "A." I am not exaggerating. I was the only one in my family not to graduate from college. Heck, I barely made one semester at a two year college. This made me feel stupid, even though I wasn't, and very poorly about myself. When I heard about the accomplishments of my brother and sister, I felt like jumping off a cliff, literally. In high school I was very depressed. </p><p></p><p>My parents learned to talk about my brother and sister's school kudos away from me. I used to throw fits, similar to those that the kids on this site do, even in high school. Because of that, my parents certainly didn't want to incite me to do that as I absolutely could not calm down or be stopped once I'd amped up. I'm not telling you to do what my parents did; I'm taking a guess as to why she was so sensitive about what you said. You hadn't put her down at all, but, in her mind, SHE put HERSELF down and it made her feel badly about herself and then it spiraled out of control. </p><p></p><p>Just something to think about...and certainly you did nothing wrong.</p><p></p><p>I</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 613082, member: 1550"] I think I know what set your difficult child off and it really isn't that she is angry at you or her sibling. If I got it right, she is angry at herself and feeling very inferior. And your comment set off something close to her surface. Like your difficult child, I had so many learning disabilities and mental health issues that I did poorly in school, although I had the IQ to have done well, if I hadn't had so many other issues in the way. My younger sister always did fairly well plus she had a lot of friends and my brother was a genius. I don't think he ever got any grade from kindergarten to his sixth year of college that wasn't an "A." I am not exaggerating. I was the only one in my family not to graduate from college. Heck, I barely made one semester at a two year college. This made me feel stupid, even though I wasn't, and very poorly about myself. When I heard about the accomplishments of my brother and sister, I felt like jumping off a cliff, literally. In high school I was very depressed. My parents learned to talk about my brother and sister's school kudos away from me. I used to throw fits, similar to those that the kids on this site do, even in high school. Because of that, my parents certainly didn't want to incite me to do that as I absolutely could not calm down or be stopped once I'd amped up. I'm not telling you to do what my parents did; I'm taking a guess as to why she was so sensitive about what you said. You hadn't put her down at all, but, in her mind, SHE put HERSELF down and it made her feel badly about herself and then it spiraled out of control. Just something to think about...and certainly you did nothing wrong. I [/QUOTE]
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