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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 430575"><p>Pot is a tough topic for me. I smoked it quite a bit in my first 3 semesters of college after having been a fairly perfect kid in high school: varsity athlete, top student, drank beer with friends on weekend nights my jr & sr years, just like everyone else, but that was about it. Then pot in college led me right down the rabbit hole into taking many other drugs, especially LSD, and after 3 semesters I lost my scholarship and dropped out. Another year in my home town, smoking pot when I could get it, and getting nowhere in life before I decided I'd better enlist in the army and get my life together. That worked and I got my life back in order and, except for a few low-level post-party incidents here and there in adulthood, have never smoked it again. So for me, pot was the classic gateway drug that led me to ruin in youth.</p><p></p><p>However, I have friends who are are successful, accomplished adults who smoke it occasionally and discreetly (i.e., never at home or around the kids--more like smoking a joint on the tee box of the 18th bowl at the end of a Sunday round of golf, or occasionally with other adult friends on the back deck after a dinner party, that sort of thing. </p><p></p><p>So my conclusion is that pot is very bad for young people who haven't finished their schooling yet and haven't settled into mature, effective adulthood and the good, embedded habits that accompany solid adulthood. I've told my kids my story wrt pot and have urged them all to stay away from it until they've finished college and started a career and feel like they've got their adulthood well underway and things are going well in life. If they decide then to enjoy pot occasionally with other accomplished, effective adults who are enjoying it occasionally in much the same way that adults enjoy cocktails together socially, that's their business and so long as it doesn't negatively effect their lives or become a habit instead of an occasional treat, I can't see how it could be a problem. So far, my orientation to pot seems to be theirs too--they've all (except my teenage son, who's had access to it but has never tried it and regards it as a "loser" activity) tried it in college but never fell into consistent use of it; I'm pretty sure that none of them have smoked it more than a couple of times, as they all regard it as having a taint of "loserdom." </p><p></p><p>There's nothing intrinsically wrong with pot--it is far less destructive, in terms of health issues and lost lives via traffic accidents, than alcohol, for instance. But it does put young people in the company of people who are essentially criminals--anyone who sells pot is a criminal, period--and who offer access to more serious drugs. On that basis alone, I don't like it and don't want my kids using it, at least while they're still in school. Life offers enough trouble and difficulty--why add this too?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 430575"] Pot is a tough topic for me. I smoked it quite a bit in my first 3 semesters of college after having been a fairly perfect kid in high school: varsity athlete, top student, drank beer with friends on weekend nights my jr & sr years, just like everyone else, but that was about it. Then pot in college led me right down the rabbit hole into taking many other drugs, especially LSD, and after 3 semesters I lost my scholarship and dropped out. Another year in my home town, smoking pot when I could get it, and getting nowhere in life before I decided I'd better enlist in the army and get my life together. That worked and I got my life back in order and, except for a few low-level post-party incidents here and there in adulthood, have never smoked it again. So for me, pot was the classic gateway drug that led me to ruin in youth. However, I have friends who are are successful, accomplished adults who smoke it occasionally and discreetly (i.e., never at home or around the kids--more like smoking a joint on the tee box of the 18th bowl at the end of a Sunday round of golf, or occasionally with other adult friends on the back deck after a dinner party, that sort of thing. So my conclusion is that pot is very bad for young people who haven't finished their schooling yet and haven't settled into mature, effective adulthood and the good, embedded habits that accompany solid adulthood. I've told my kids my story wrt pot and have urged them all to stay away from it until they've finished college and started a career and feel like they've got their adulthood well underway and things are going well in life. If they decide then to enjoy pot occasionally with other accomplished, effective adults who are enjoying it occasionally in much the same way that adults enjoy cocktails together socially, that's their business and so long as it doesn't negatively effect their lives or become a habit instead of an occasional treat, I can't see how it could be a problem. So far, my orientation to pot seems to be theirs too--they've all (except my teenage son, who's had access to it but has never tried it and regards it as a "loser" activity) tried it in college but never fell into consistent use of it; I'm pretty sure that none of them have smoked it more than a couple of times, as they all regard it as having a taint of "loserdom." There's nothing intrinsically wrong with pot--it is far less destructive, in terms of health issues and lost lives via traffic accidents, than alcohol, for instance. But it does put young people in the company of people who are essentially criminals--anyone who sells pot is a criminal, period--and who offer access to more serious drugs. On that basis alone, I don't like it and don't want my kids using it, at least while they're still in school. Life offers enough trouble and difficulty--why add this too? [/QUOTE]
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