Which is understandable. One time one of the difficult children said well I have been through so much is why you have to give me a break on this. She rattled off a list of things and said I have been through just as much and don't do this crap. This was a few years ago. She has not had contact with either of them in about 2 years. Nor them with each other. We literally have three different worlds we live in. So she just changed therapists and when I explained difficult child 1 was getting ready to send an apology for things done and what not so difficult child 1 could have visits with easy child here her new therapist outright asked her if she wanted a relationship with difficult child. She didn't even think about it when she answered no. easy child has been at her dads for a month so has not been in therapy during this time. So I love the attitude of the difficult children placements that easy child is somehow holding up their care by living her life. The day after easy child gets home she goes right back into therapy. (She doesn't know that.) The social worker is putting pressure on me to get her going on these things. How is this fair? Well I know life isn't fair but crap she is a kid too. Just cuz she hasn't caused trouble doesn't mean she needs to be crapped on. Or me for that matter on her behalf. And believe me I won't tell her they are complaining. She doesn't need that. She has not had control over so many things in her life that were dictated because of the difficult child behaviors and I imagine that she sees this as a way to hold onto some control of her life. I just don't know how to get others to back down. I mean it took difficult child 1 a long time to come to this point in her treatment. They expect easy child to magically be ready in 2 months. What a crock.