DD1 had a "punishment" homework assignment tonight. In the mornings her class works in literature circles. Unfortunately her group has four kids who want to talk about anything but literature, her and another boy she calls 'clueless'. Well, the four took over today, again, and the group got 'punished' as a group and had to write about ways they could make their literature circle better. They had to fill a sheet front and back. DD1 got about 65% done and ran out of ideas and came asking me for help. I read her ideas (some she repeated) and they were all your basic ideas of how to get a group back on track. She also told me that she did try implementing these ideas, but failed. After all it's 4 against 1. So I started suggesting things like asking the teacher to intervene or having her group changed. She calmly and rationally explained how those were not valid ideas on how to 'fix' the group. So as my blood started to boil on this issue, I told her that if she can't think of anything else, she's done. Of course, she is in easy child mode and MUST follow the rule of filling the page front and back. So before she could get herself into difficult child mode over this, I managed to calm her down and told her that I would be talking to the teacher about this ........ nonsense. I expressed to her how proud I was that she did her best to resolve the problems, and it's really not fair for the teacher to expect any child to do so when stuck in such a group. I also commended her for keeping calm and not going difficult child about this. by the way about two weeks ago she had a problem with this same group. They were talking and planning the day's jobs while the teacher was still teaching so DD1 was left out of those decisions. She *almost* lost it but asked to go to the bathroom. Unfortunately she ended up breaking the bathroom pass in her frustration and got a school consequence (no biggie, she missed PE which she doesn't like anyway ) Am I overreacting? Do you think that DD1 (any child for that matter) should be expected to get her group in line without adult assistance, and be punished along with the group when they cross the line? by the way it's 5th grade.