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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 389779" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi</p><p> </p><p>susie yes it is same exact boy. since she met him 2 years ago she's been soo different, she's always been defiant yet he brings out worst in her. she likes that whole bad boy image thing I think. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>crazymama - yes your right, that's why what i've been doing with her is i do punish her when need be, i cant' give her a free card to act crazy because we have this situation with-difficult child, yet i've been punishing with one hand and hugging with the other if that makes any sense to you. For instance yesterday she acted completely out of control, than today i woke up and invited her with me and difficult child to get a manicure done. We are watiing on difficult child to finish her shake that was the deal. shake than bring puppy outside than manicure. she turned me down, yet i still offered it.</p><p> </p><p>toughlovin/Susie - i appreciate you taking the time to share with-me your experience. It makes sense i see your points. We have though tried alot of different approaches with-this boy. years ago we allowed him into our home, the whole ok you wanna be with this troubled boy than here's the place to have him. I had him for dinner, watched a movie with both of them, drove this kid home, etc. did the whole open arm thing. Yet it bit us in our butts bigtime. I had difficult child out and well it's a sorted grose tail yet easy child snuck him in and had sex with-him in our home while difficult child and i were food shopping. to add to it i was very sick at time and asked easy child can you pls come to help with bags and stuff. she saId no i can't i dont' feel well. We found condoms in our downstairs bathroom. than she ran away and took off, with him just locally.</p><p> </p><p>i even tried talking to the parents, this kid does drugs also, is known to be the community druggie and sells them too. school sw was like oh no she's seeing him i feel bad for you, explains her behavior. since easy child's been with him she's gotten suspended numerous times past 2 years, told off teachers, has been insubordinate, now is at risk of not graduating. she is making these choices, it's clearly not HIS fault. yet his influence on her is strong. When she wasn't with him she was a joy to be around.</p><p> </p><p>about 2 mos ago husband talked to him. he said listen we are concerned, each time she is with you she looses her way gets into trouble,you came into our home when my wife wasnt' home and did that. it's not respectful so do you blame my wife for not allowing you in our home yet? he said watch what you do, be careful with-her in your car (he drives now), dont' let me hear you have her in your car after drinking, or you do anything to hurt her. He said we know what your about the pot, selling it, trouble with-police. he said straighten yourself out, give it time. show us you can be trustworthy etc.</p><p> </p><p>it's soo hard when a girl wants a guy that's bad for them like he is. you know how it goes you say don't date him they gravitate closer. we tried other approach though and that didn't work. my mom gut can't allow me to watch her get into a car with-someone that sells drugs, is now getting arrested, i just can't do it. no way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 389779, member: 4514"] hi susie yes it is same exact boy. since she met him 2 years ago she's been soo different, she's always been defiant yet he brings out worst in her. she likes that whole bad boy image thing I think. crazymama - yes your right, that's why what i've been doing with her is i do punish her when need be, i cant' give her a free card to act crazy because we have this situation with-difficult child, yet i've been punishing with one hand and hugging with the other if that makes any sense to you. For instance yesterday she acted completely out of control, than today i woke up and invited her with me and difficult child to get a manicure done. We are watiing on difficult child to finish her shake that was the deal. shake than bring puppy outside than manicure. she turned me down, yet i still offered it. toughlovin/Susie - i appreciate you taking the time to share with-me your experience. It makes sense i see your points. We have though tried alot of different approaches with-this boy. years ago we allowed him into our home, the whole ok you wanna be with this troubled boy than here's the place to have him. I had him for dinner, watched a movie with both of them, drove this kid home, etc. did the whole open arm thing. Yet it bit us in our butts bigtime. I had difficult child out and well it's a sorted grose tail yet easy child snuck him in and had sex with-him in our home while difficult child and i were food shopping. to add to it i was very sick at time and asked easy child can you pls come to help with bags and stuff. she saId no i can't i dont' feel well. We found condoms in our downstairs bathroom. than she ran away and took off, with him just locally. i even tried talking to the parents, this kid does drugs also, is known to be the community druggie and sells them too. school sw was like oh no she's seeing him i feel bad for you, explains her behavior. since easy child's been with him she's gotten suspended numerous times past 2 years, told off teachers, has been insubordinate, now is at risk of not graduating. she is making these choices, it's clearly not HIS fault. yet his influence on her is strong. When she wasn't with him she was a joy to be around. about 2 mos ago husband talked to him. he said listen we are concerned, each time she is with you she looses her way gets into trouble,you came into our home when my wife wasnt' home and did that. it's not respectful so do you blame my wife for not allowing you in our home yet? he said watch what you do, be careful with-her in your car (he drives now), dont' let me hear you have her in your car after drinking, or you do anything to hurt her. He said we know what your about the pot, selling it, trouble with-police. he said straighten yourself out, give it time. show us you can be trustworthy etc. it's soo hard when a girl wants a guy that's bad for them like he is. you know how it goes you say don't date him they gravitate closer. we tried other approach though and that didn't work. my mom gut can't allow me to watch her get into a car with-someone that sells drugs, is now getting arrested, i just can't do it. no way. [/QUOTE]
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